My Kids

Katina Danae

A few weeks ago, Danae learned that a movie she wanted to see was going to be shown on cable. She got excited and took note of the date. When in doubt about the content of any movie, I research first before I agree. And then I watch it with them. My girls know we can be pretty strict about these things, so I was glad I was asked first before she went ahead and saw it on her own.

The children in the movie have interesting names — Seven, Starr, and Sekani. I relate to the father who named their children, because his choices were not random. Seven for perfection. Starr for light in the darkness. Sekani for joy. I soooo love that. It reminds me of why King and I named our children the way we did. Early on, we knew that their names would be a significant decision for us to make.

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Katina Danae. 14 years ago, we chose to give our first born this name. We chose a K name because of King, which is his actual first name, and we wanted to declare that our daughter will live a pure and holy life. Katina means pure. Danae came from one of our favorite people in the Bible, Daniel. (I love his friends too. I joke that if I could name my kids Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego, I would. 😀 ) The name means God is my judge, and we wanted to declare that our daughter will love God fearlessly and be ten times better, just like Daniel.

We declare these for Danae to this day! We also declare wisdom beyond your years, Nae. Wisdom in your speech, wisdom in friendships, wisdom in big and small decisions. We declare courage to share the love of Jesus, even to those who are difficult to love. We declare passion to seek the Lord, to obey Him, and depend on Him. We declare security in your identity in Jesus Christ alone. We declare strength in your spiritual foundations and steadfastness, that you will always choose God over anything the world offers. We declare confidence to approach the throne of your Father, humility to rely on His grace. May the Lord be glorified in your life Nae! You are a normal teenager, who is into Why Don’t We and easily appreciates beauty (I am being nice here 😀 ), who makes mistakes, fights with her sisters, and is in need of guidance. We thank the Lord for the work He is doing in you, in your day-to-day affairs. Thank you for listening to us, even though many times it takes a while to take. Thank you for always being open to us, talking to us about anything and everything. For trusting us with your tea 😉 . Thank you for loving and appreciating our imperfect family. We love you so much. Happy 14th ❤ .

 

Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:1-2

“I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. Jonh 15:5

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10X

10xOur new series in church is 10X, all about the next generation. While listening to the preaching yesterday, I was close to tears. Aside from Ptr Jonathan’s touching story about his brave teenage daughter KC who went through so much as a child, operations for her cleft palate and scoliosis, bullying and isolation because she looks and sounds different, I got reminded of my own daughter.

Danae has not gone through half of what KC has, but the preaching brought me back to my pregnancy and our first year as parents. You see, Daniel is my absolute favorite person in the Bible (Old Testament). We would have named our first born after him if he were a boy. But because we had a girl, we found a not-so-common name in a Baby Names book that was the same as Daniel — Danae. In Hebrew, both mean God is my judge, although apparently Danae is also a princess in Greek Mythology. I do not like her story there. Just saying, haha.

Anyway, I just remembered why I love Daniel so much and how we wanted Danae (and Noelle of course) to be ten times better than us, just like Daniel was in his generation. We were so passionate about praying and declaring this to Danae even while she (and Noelle) was in my womb.

This is truly our heart’s desire. We hope for our children to be ten times better than me or King — that at an early age, they will love God, hold fast and remain in Him. This is why we spend time with them, we teach them God’s word and about life, we homeschool them, we discipline them, we pray with them, we build memories with them, we talk to them. We love our children so much that we want more for them — not so they will be trapped in what we think is best for them, but so that they will seek the Lord, grow and walk in their God-given destiny.

This is why we step up as parents as well. What we teach our kids, they must see in us. It is completely unfair that we expect them to be ten times better, while we remain mediocre or indifferent or passive. If we want our children to be ten times better than us, we must be active in parenting them. We have gone ahead of them and we are continually learning. It is our responsibility to not only download it to them, but set the example for them. This way, we will be better, and our children will be ten times better. 🙂

The king talked with them, and he found none equal to Daniel, Hananiah, Mishael and Azariah; so they entered the king’s service. In every matter of wisdom and understanding about which the king questioned them, he found them ten times better than all the magicians and enchanters in his whole kingdom. Daniel 1:19-20

Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates. Deuteronomy 6:5-9

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I CHALLENGE YOU!

I watched the end of the Corona Trial and noticed that our senators are OLD. The senate president is apparently over 70 years old. I wondered why they were still there. Maybe they just love what they do. But then I also wondered if they were teaching somebody younger to do what they do, to eventually take their place. Could it be that they’re still there because there’s no one capable to replace them or continue their work? If so, why not?

A couple of friends of mine are resigning from their jobs. I hear the same concerns. Who is going to do the work they’re going to leave behind? To achieve a good transition, another capable person (or one with potential at the very least) should be “attached” to them, so that the new person learns to do his/her new job efficiently, and the whole team or company doesn’t have to suffer (much).

I think basic discipleship principles are in order. The older politicians should be humble enough to take newbies, even those who are potentially AND actually better than them, under their wing and mentor them, teach them the ropes. Humble and secure enough, unafraid that their mentees will be greater than them one day. I know I know, the corrupt ones can do the same, but I believe they will ruin themselves eventually — sowing and reaping. But that’s even more reason for the good ones to step up. Share their passion, their vision for the country. Train the younger ones, show them past mistakes so they can avoid them. Listen to idealistic, new ideas, and learn from them. Similar practices might help companies as well.

This is exactly what discipleship is for me. We impart, teach, minister not so we can just do that per se, but to train them to be like us…no, better than us. We teach, they learn, they grow. We teach, we learn, we grow too! But we’re not going to be in our positions forever. We’re in Alabang now, but God could take us elsewhere. What happens to the work we started, to the people we minister to? Who will take over? While we are still here, we must already think about that. That’s why we push multiple anchoring (connecting with multiple leaders that they can go to for counsel, accountability, or just to hang with and learn from) and we encourage them to lead others as well. They teach, others learn, others grow. They teach, they learn, they grow too — hopefully ten times better than their predecessors.

So I challenge you! It doesn’t matter if you’re young or old, an employee, a boss, a student, a teacher, a student government official, a politician, a parent, a pastor, an assistant, a victory group leader, or the country’s president.  WHO’S NEXT AFTER YOU? Who do you plan to pass the baton to? Who are you training to do what you’re doing and to continue the legacy that you have started? Are you multiplying yourself? Are you letting your “apprentices” fly, allowing them to make mistakes and learn from them, but continually supporting and mentoring them? Are you showing the way, preparing the way, and then getting out of the way?