Marriage

SEASON OF CHALLENGES

I really enjoyed what Yeng and Michelle did to start their session entitled SEASON OF CHALLENGES, at our recently concluded Couples’ Getaway 2011. We were divided into groups of 8 or more couples. The task was for each spouse to instruct his/her blindfolded spouse to avoid stepping on the unnecessary toys and pick up the one item that is assigned to them. Whichever team would get all 10 items first, would win. Strategic planning, then the blindfolding were done in the function room. The game was outside. I was the one blindfolded. I did not see which lane was for our team, or see the arrangement of toys. King & I were the 3rd in our line and our item was the wrist watch.

I’m so proud of King! He was an excellent leader and team player! As I was blindfolded, waiting for our turn, he already gave me specific instructions. He told me that if he says PENGUIN, I’m supposed to take baby steps. I demoed it for him to confirm. If he says BIG STEP or SMALL STEP, I’m supposed to take a step but wait for him to tell me how much further or nearer, and wait for him to tell me when to set my foot down. Instructions were clear from the very beginning.

When it was our turn, I trusted him completely. When he said STOP, I stopped immediately. When I was not clear on what he wanted me to do, I would clarify. If I could not understand the instruction, I told him so, then he would change it in a way that I understood. He was calm and very patient. I was attentive and surprisingly calm too. I followed his instructions carefully, as best as I could. We went through the challenge JUST ONCE! Which means I didn’t step on any object at any time, else I’d have to go back from the beginning all over again. Of course, my Crocs flats helped too, because they aren’t big shoes. It was easier to avoid the little toys. After our turn, King helped the rest of our teammates by guiding them and encouraging them.

Our team did not win the challenge, we finished 3rd, but it was such a cool experience. The game was very telling of how a couple TRUSTS, how they COMMUNICATE, and with what kind of ATTITUDE they approach challenges in their marriage.

Much like in our marriages, we start the game on the same page. But along the way, things happen, things change. There are times that communication is not clear or is not working. We need to work to understand each other. Re-adjusting is necessary. It was great that I ended up being the one led, just as a wife is. I had to trust my husband’s leadership. I did not assume that I knew better, because I couldn’t. I was the one who couldn’t see anything! Sometimes, we have blind spots. We must be wise & loving in how we tell our spouse of their blind spots, and when we are the ones being reminded, we must trust in their wisdom and love too. Attitude is everything! If you let your temper or frustration get the better of you, then communication, wisdom, trust go out the window, and are replaced by PRIDE.

Haha, I’m getting rebuked as I write this. We did great in the game, but reality is a different story. MUST APPLY IN REAL LIFE! 🙂

Check the previous blog SEASONS to find out what our assigned item represented, along with the rest of the 9 items. Included there are the lessons we learned from the other speakers as well. 🙂

Family, Marriage

SEASONS

At long last, King and I were able to have some alone time at the Couples’ Getaway last weekend. We got there late for the first activity but just in time for the first session, done by Ptr Sonny and Malou Oaman. They shared their testimony, having gone through many different seasons in their marriage. They taught us that many changes happen in a lifetime and in a marriage, and it’s all about our ATTITUDE. Our attitude will dictate how we cope with those changes. We must remember that for every season, there is FRUIT! Our hardships are not pointless. There will be times that we will fail, but failure is just a DETOUR, not a DEAD-END. Failure educates us and helps us prepare, plan, anticipate so that we can have more SUCCESS in the future. Like it is said, THERE IS NO AMOUNT OF SUCCESS THAT CAN COMPENSATE OUR FAILURES IN THE FAMILY. Family must be our priority.

I also enjoyed the second session, which King and I have yet to sit down & continue talking about. “Pastor” Ardy Abello gave us a workshop on the SEASONS OF MARRIAGE, a tweaked version of the Seasons of Life workshop. We were tasked to compute our remaining years on earth and what we wanted to do with those years according to the seasons of marriage. King and I have around 46 years, and we realized that we have so much we want to do individually, for our family, and in our involvements. The workshop really helps you set goals for yourself, for you & your spouse, and for your family. It’s a wonderful thing to DREAM! It BUILDS UP YOUR FAITH!

SEASON OF CHALLENGES was done by our dear friends Yeng (author of Productive Pinoy) and Michelle Remulla. They began their talk with a very interesting & fun game. It consisted of blindfolds, strategies, little toys, and significant items. They ended it by sharing to us how we couples should respond to life’s challenges, each item in the game representing a point they were teaching. Gavel – Make decisions together. Umbrella – Protect each other. Watch – Make time for each other. Bell – Pay attention. Phone – Communicate, don’t irritate. Wallet – Talk about money. Shoes – Don’t walk away. Heart – Meet his/her needs. Small group material/booklet – Be humble. Ask for help. Bible – Trust & submit to God. It was my kind of session — a fun activity with 10 great points!

Ptr Jojo and Ida Henson shared on the SEASON OF HARVEST. Harvest will be great IF WE KNOW OUR SOURCE. We must never make our spouse the source for our acceptance, our identity, our security, or our purpose (4 inner cravings of man). We have a supernatural source, which is JESUS. ONLY HE can fill each and every one of our our needs. They ended it with a powerful time of prayer, declaration, and prophetic words. A lot of sniffing and sighing from both men & women at the end of that one haha, me included.

THANK YOU. WE ARE GRATEFUL FOR PEOPLE LIKE YOU IN OUR LIVES. 🙂