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A Reminder from the Lorax

We got the DVD of The Lorax two weeks ago and the girls have been watching it DAILY since then. They’re watching it now actually, and this funny dialogue just reminded me of something.

The Onceler was trying to bribe the Lorax with marshmallows, so he’d get to stay and harvest some trees.
Lorax: Gimme that! Sniff sniff…..hmmm….I’m gonna eat this, but I’m highly offended by it!

Of course, as the story goes, the Lorax still refuses to let the Onceler do what he wants, and tries his hardest to save the trees. But it just occurred to me that we often do what the Lorax did in this scene.

WE SAY ONE THING, BUT WE DO ANOTHER. If he was really offended by the gesture, he wouldn’t have eaten the marshmallow. His disclaimer was pointless because of his actions.

Actions still speak louder than words. Our lives speak more than what we actually preach. If we really believe in something, it should be expressed through our SPEECH and ACTIONS. In the same way, whatever we do and however we live our lives, is a manifestation of what is in our hearts. What we say and what we do should be ONE — INTEGRITY.

The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks. Luke 6:45

In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead. James 2:17

Make a tree good and its fruit will be good, or make a tree bad and its fruit will be bad, for a tree is recognized by its fruit. Matthew 12:33

For the LORD gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding; he stores up sound wisdom for the upright; he is a shield to those who walk in integrity, guarding the paths of justice and watching over the way of his saints. Proverbs 2:6-8

Family, Parenting, THE BRAINY BUNCH

My Mom

One of the most important things I learned from my mom ever since I was little was INTEGRITY. She always exerted effort to make sure she was truthful and credible, and that her name was respectable. She was, still is, also one who could be trusted with certain information. I remember we were together on a trip when I was a teenager, she told me a sad secret about a friend of ours. It wasn’t gossip because I knew she cared about them and she was trying to teach me something. I guess I got from her the same value for trust and keeping one’s word (as much as I possibly can; I’m not perfect) because to this day, I still keep that secret. I don’t even know if I’ve mentioned it to King.

My mom is simple and somewhat low-maintenance. I love that about her. I am the same way though I think I may even be more low maintenance haha, and proud of it.

She’s not the type who needs to stay at a 5-star hotel when we travel. She likes to splurge sometimes, but she’s very sensible about her finances. I wish I had her incredible business sense, weighing the value and the cost. I only see things as cheap or expensive haha, and I almost always want to go the cheap route. She is extremely intelligent too even at her age of 63, though she eats too much pork — memory gap hahaha.

When I was a child, I didn’t get elaborate birthday gifts, fashionable clothes or cutesie patootsie stuff, but she and my dad took us places. I may have felt deprived of the cool toys and clothes, but we were never deprived of fun family trips. I will always be grateful for that.

My mom is so different from me in terms of motherhood, but I think she’s a pretty cool mom, a really cool mother-in-law, and a really really cool grandmother! She gives us advice but doesn’t overstep her boundaries. She respects King’s leadership over our family even though we live in one house (when she is in town, that is). She is so generous to us (and other people), but she doesn’t lord it over us. She’s very independent and quite modern. She doesn’t have that mind set of wanting her children to pay her back for all that she’s done or to support her financially (though of course that is what we want to do for her one day), but she wants to continue being a blessing and help to her children.

My mom may not be a picture of a typical mother, but she is the best mom to me and my brother.

Happy mothers’ day, mom! What I teach the girls I learned from you, so thank you. And I want to be like you when I become a mother-in-law and grandmother. I love you! 🙂

My Kids, Parenting

Danae Learns Responsibility

One afternoon two weeks ago, Danae told me that they made something in school that involved cutting. The first time she shared her story, she just said that they made something. By evening, before going to bed, she told me that somebody cut her hair after making the craft. Curious, I asked her who it was. When she said she didn’t know, I immediately asked if it was her. And it was! She told me that when her teacher asked, she said it wasn’t her.

I wasn’t angry that she cut her hair (because thank God it wasn’t noticeable at all), but I told her that what she did was wrong. She shouldn’t have lied to her teacher about it, and she needed to apologize. She cried her eyes out. She didn’t want to apologize because she was afraid that her teacher will get mad (her words). She said she lied because she was afraid of her teacher. She was so upset that for the first time, she said that she did not want to go back to school anymore. I comforted her and assured her that I will be with her when she apologizes, that we will not do it in front of other people, and that her teacher will appreciate her honesty. After much talk, we settled it and she agreed. I did my part in accompanying her the next day and making sure that it was only her teacher listening, and Danae did her part.

What a great opportunity for our child to learn responsibility. Now we know for sure, that she will not cut her hair again OR lie about it again. We made her own up to her responsibility by letting her face her fear, admit the truth, and apologize for her mistake. She is only 5 but she is already starting to actually learn the value of honesty and integrity (also that lying is unacceptable in our family), learn the reality of actions and consequences, learn the power of her family’s love and support, and learn the freedom that forgiveness (asking for it & receiving it) and grace bring.

That day, my daughter acted like an adult. That day, my daughter made us so very proud.