Marriage

15 Years <3

Today we celebrate our 15th wedding anniversary. ❤  I cannot thank God enough for first giving me the best husband, and then for sustaining us all these years. When I married King, I was sure that it was God who ordained everything for us to be together. But he isn’t perfect, and I am not perfect. We had only known each other for about 14 months, hardly enough time to really get to know another person. So in those 15 years, anything could have happened. The baggage we first brought into our marriage, we could have carried to this day. We could have kept pointing out the fault of the other and kept blaming each other. We could have kept dredging up our past. The issues we faced in the beginning could have remained. The attitudes we had could have remained unchanged. We could have made choices that would ruin us. We could have given up in frustration and pain (although the worst marriage nightmares, we experienced only literally in our dreams, or Kings dreams 😀 ).

But God has carried us through. Marriage is no joke. It is no easy feat. It takes work and change and dying to self. There is nothing like marriage to make you grow up and practice selflessness. I thank God for His grace, giving us the ability to not just bury things in our subconscious, but to acknowledge the issue, forgive and move forward. I thank God for His Word that continually renews our minds and transforms us. It is impossible to navigate through our relationship without the Word of God. Our marriage cannot grow if we ourselves do not grow in our relationship with God. I am so grateful for our spiritual family, that looks out for us. Marriage seminars and retreats, but most importantly couples we look up to and learn so much from. Couples who love us, walk with us, cover us in prayer, and are so generous in sharing their wisdom. Discipleship (as youth/singles) also truly helped us in learning servant leadership, grace, forgiveness, humility, honor, security in our identity in Christ, standards, boundaries, priorities, prayer, faith, trust, joy, hope, sacrificial love. Very important values to carry into a marriage.

Thank you, babe, for being a great husband. Thank you for your genes! We have three beautiful, talented daughters because of your contribution 😀 😀 😀 !  Thank you for your love for our family. Thank you for your kindness, and your example of Christlikeness. You have mentored me in so many ways. Thank you for loving God more than you love me. Our marriage is not perfect. We both make mistakes. But by the grace of God, we will continue being comfortable but never complacent, and we will celebrate our 50th anniversary in 35 years!!! We will be in our late 70s, but hopefully still grooving and laughing together. I love you! ❤

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Family, Marriage

Golden!

My in-laws recently celebrated their golden wedding anniversary. First of all, 50 years together? Wow! What an amazing milestone!

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Growing up, I attended the golden wedding anniversary celebrations of my grandparents on both sides. I think I may even have played the piano at one of them. I love that my children will also remember celebrating their grandparents’ anniversary with family and a few friends. They will remember that they got to witness their Dad officiate his parents’ renewal of vows. They will remember the love and appreciation they the grandkids and others expressed for their grandparents. They will remember how their aunts and uncles honored their mom and dad with their messages. They will remember how loved we all made their Wowo Jun and Wowa Remy feel that night. They will remember their grandparents’ legacy of love, a strong marriage, strong family ties, and a committed relationship with God.

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10 grandkids! They sang I WILL as Wowo and Wowa had their anniversary dance. 3rd eldest granddaughter Yelly created and edited a video for them too. 🙂 

 

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With their 5th child and 3rd son King — pastor, officiant, DJ extraordinaire!

 

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My sister-in-law in the US, Leris, with her husband Diego, sent an audio of her message to honor their parents. Each of their children honored them with much love, touching words, and some tears. ❤ 

 

King and his siblings expressed some time last year that they wanted to do something nice for their parents this year. They kind of wanted a repeat of what King organized for their parents 3 years ago, which I was supportive of but absent for, due to a very difficult first trimester of pregnancy. Somebody also suggested a renewal of vows ceremony. To make the long story short, the idea was not at all forgotten, but we were all lacking in the planning department haha. Thank God King and I had some alone time one morning, on our way to a wake, and we had the opportunity to finally talk about the anniversary. It was literally a week away! Things moved pretty quickly from there. King suggested Neil’s Kitchen, we had lunch there and inquired right away. Our first choice, January 21 was booked, so we settled for the next best thing, January 22, a Sunday. We ran it by the siblings, two of whom were in California at that time, and they gave us the go signal. I basically became the very willing coordinator of the party. I guess the hosting skills naturally kicked in haha. Guest list, food, attire, motif were quickly decided. My sister-in-law residing in the US sent teddy bears and candies for our giveaways, through their eldest brother Ronald, who came home the Friday before the event. Thank God for internet. Communication and coordination would have been impossible without it. Good thing I’m married to the officiant too, haha.

 

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Function room of Neil’s Kitchen. By no means was it a grand celebration in terms of scale and cost, but it was a joyous, intimate gathering of family and a few friends, with lots of love, laughter, and encouraging words, good food and cool music.

 

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Prayers for Mommy and Daddy ❤

 

It’s funny because King kept telling me that he wanted a simple party. He didn’t want me to add anything to what was part of the package, basically because he didn’t want me to work and get stressed. Sweet, but no. I needed to personalize it, of course! And what I do is always minimal and always simple anyway, never over the top. But he does know how I lose sleep working on the little details, hehehe. But I insisted. My other sister-in-law also said she was making cut-outs of their parents’ initials. She and her husband are excellent in making decor and props like that.

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I cut out 50s using gold crepe paper and stuck them on the little chalk boards I had at home. I covered my votives with the same paper and tied jute string around them. I put ribbons on the base of little easels. And I bought boxes from a bakers’ supply store and cut the gold covers for the Bible verse print-outs.

 

 

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My other sister-in-law Lanie made the J and R! 🙂

 

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I placed couple shots of daddy and mommy through the years in each table, along with the teddy bear and candy giveaways.

 

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I propped the Bible verses up on the little easels. I put the candy giveaways in the votives. I asked some early bird family members to help cut out hearts from the gold box covers, write thank yous, and tie them around the teddy bears’ necks with jute string. We added some baby’s breath flowers as well. 

 

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The cake! Not the usual, formal anniversary cake, but delicious nonetheless. Can’t go wrong with Mango Bravo. 🙂 

 

To me, it became so much more meaningful when I realized this was something I would not be able to do for my own parents because my dad is no longer with us. My mom and dad can’t celebrate their golden anniversary anymore, though I am certain that they would be if he were alive today. My kids didn’t have the chance to see firsthand my parents’ marriage, how they love and take care of each other. I don’t have the privilege to do something for their 50th. This was my only other opportunity, and I’m so grateful.

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The children, from left to right. Ronald, the eldest. Rammil with his wife Lei on his right. Lanie and her husband Larry on her right. Jay, the youngest and tallest, with wife Weng (not in picture). King with me. Leris and husband Diego (also not in picture).

 

I’m grateful that my in-laws are alive AND are still together after 50 years! I’m grateful that we — especially me, my family, and all of King’s siblings and their families — did not miss or waste this opportunity to thank, honor, and rejoice with them. We all worked together to make the celebration possible. I’m grateful for everyone who tried to come and for those who actually came! Some came from as far as Bulacan. We made Daddy Jun and Mommy Remy very happy! So happy that Mommy Remy was overcome with emotion that she could not say what she wanted to say. She told me yesterday that there are so many stories behind their 50 years, and that one day she will tell them to me. I will wait for that day. King has told me amazing stories about his experiences and about his family. I have no doubt that when my parents-in-law share their stories with me, I will be amazed at God’s faithfulness in their lives.

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FAMILY ❤ 

 

Happy golden wedding anniversary Daddy and Mommy! Thank you for setting the bar high, for inspiring us to have strong, God-honoring marriages, for teaching us to love and prioritize our families. Thank you also for showing us that when we get to your age, we husbands and wives can still serve the Lord together. God bless you both so much. We love you! ❤

 

“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you. Exodus 20:12

Pay to all what is owed to them: taxes to whom taxes are owed, revenue to whom revenue is owed, respect to whom respect is owed, honor to whom honor is owed. Romans 13:7

 
Marriage

Twelve Years!

So we celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary yesterday, woot woot! We were so busy celebrating, I didn’t have time to write hehehe. King is such a thoughtful husband that he always takes a leave and plans something for our anniversary. I don’t get in his way or upstage him by coming up with my own plans because I believe he enjoys doing that for us. I asked him the other day what the plan was, and he told me that he was thinking of checking us into a hotel. As he was saying that it’s too expensive, I agreed and said yeah, let’s not. But then he went on to say that instead of spending the money on a hotel overnight stay, it’s better to spend it in Divisoria (it is an area in Manila with a series of stores/malls that sell more affordable stuff especially when you buy in bulk). Haha. King knew right away that he got me good! I haven’t been to Divisoria in ages, and I’ve been wanting to go!

So there. We spent half the day in Divi. We went straight after dropping off the older girls at school. Gianna was with us haha. We have no pictures! But our sore backs are proof. She’s so heavy already. And you don’t bring strollers to Divi. Traffic of people can be tight and heavy. She did cooperate, staying in the baby carrier, which King and I alternated wearing, almost the entire time. We stayed in Divi for 4 hours, and travelled about 2 hours coming back for the girls in school. We were late! We were all hungry so we drove through for food, and King and the older girls proceeded to play with and assemble King’s Divi find as soon as we got home. Actually, that’s all King bought. Though we were there to supposedly buy some things for ourselves, we ended up buying mostly for the kids and our home. No matter. We were happy, and we are excited to go back. Then for dinner, King cooked a family favorite — his shrimp pesto penne.

Simplicity. I love that about us. We don’t really run after big, bright, expensive things. Don’t get me wrong. We are happy to receive those too haha. And thankful to be able to splurge (our own definition of splurge, of course) on occasion. But we are ones who are happy to simply spend time together and to bless our children even in little ways. I remember our first anniversary, for which I prepared a surprise candle lit dinner at home on the floor, with Danae on a blanket beside us. I think that was the only anniversary I planned. And now our 12th year! We have definitely had many and different celebrations as a family. I’m thankful for each one. For each birthday, each Christmas, each anniversary, each memory.

The Lord is good. The Lord is faithful. I thank God for my husband and for my marriage. The night of the super moon, we ate at Salad Stop (yummy!), and I asked King why he loves me. One of the things he said was because I love God more than him. I asked him how he knows that, and he told me it’s because I’m scared to hurt him. Hahahaha, we had an argument-slash-banter that day and I threatened to punch him for real. But of course I didn’t. We both laughed. I hope that that is true as only God can see and judge my heart. That is the very reason I was confident in marrying King as well. That he loves God more than me. I pray that holds true for us both till death do us part.

King – Jesus – Phoebe ❤ November 15, 2004


Happy anniversary King! I love you! 🙂

‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.” Mark 10:7-9 NLT

Family, Marriage, My Kids

Our Sweet Danae

So we celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary last week. But before I share how we celebrated that, I want to share what happened on our 9th anniversary.

It was a busy day. The kids attended their friend’s birthday party in church early afternoon, and King and I had a couples thanksgiving event to attend in the evening. We didn’t have any separate plans to celebrate our anniversary that day. Little did we know that our eldest daughter was working out an impromptu surprise for us. Well actually, she did say she had a plan to surprise us hahaha, but how and what her plan was exactly, we didn’t know. The idea came to her only as we walked into church!

So as we were getting ready for the event, Danae told us to stay in King’s office and only come to the conference room when she said so. My friend Merlee covered my eyes and Ptr Carlo covered King’s eyes as they led us to the room (this is according to Danae when I asked her, because I don’t remember that part anymore haha). When I opened my eyes, our friends (those she was able to gather, or more like force haha) were there to greet us a happy anniversary! There was cake and a written out program!

 

Surprise!!! :)
Surprise!!! 🙂
My sweetheart :)
My sweetheart 🙂
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the cake! :)
the cake! 🙂
check out the prizes! haha :)
check out the prizes! haha 🙂
the script for Danae and their friend Julio :)
the script 🙂

Our friends told us that Danae told them (everybody she saw in church) to come to the surprise party. She asked help to buy cake. She wanted a big cake but I guess she didn’t realize that she needed more than the 200 pesos she had. My friend Lea accompanied her to the cake store. They told us that Danae made sure there were plates, forks and table napkins. It was a short “party” but it was the sweetest thing ever. I love how she really wanted to do something nice for us, and I love how our friends accommodated her. I was close to tears at her thoughtfulness and determination.

This year, Noelle woke me up with her greeting and later on showed me her sweet card.

super love the spelling! :)
super love the spelling! 🙂

And Danae wanted to sort of recreate the surprise candle lit dinner I did for King on our first wedding anniversary but we didn’t have an opportunity to because King already made plans. He took the whole family, including my mom and his parents, to dinner at one of our favourite restaurants, Alba’s. We ordered our usual chorizo bilbao, gambas, paella, salpicao, and my favorite, lengua. Their trio also, as usual, serenaded us with spanish music, but when they could not grant our request for That’s All, which was the song to our first dance (at the wedding; we’ve danced together before that, for church heehee), they sang John Legend’s All of Me. Oh what a beautiful song. I’ve always appreciated that song, but now it’s one of my faves. I’m claiming it as ours, our tenth anniversary song.

After dinner, we had dessert at, wait for it, Jollibee. Hahahaha. We met up with King’s sister and his family there, and I discovered that I like their ice cream with kisses mix-in dessert! Then we stayed at the park behind Jollibee, while the kids played and did a photo shoot.

Although it’s pretty usual for us to eat at Alba’s on special occasions, or to have dessert at Jollibee, or play in the park, it was still extra special. It was our tenth anniversary, it was our first time to spend an anniversary with our parents, and it was our first time to celebrate an anniversary with three children. God is good, and I am incredibly blessed. 🙂

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happiness 🙂

 

“But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’  ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,  and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one.  Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” Mark 10:6-9

Many a man claims to have unfailing love, but a faithful man who can find?  The righteous man leads a blameless life; blessed are his children after him. Proverbs 20:6-7

Marriage

Ten Years Today

I have not posted anything in quite a while, but today deserves this break, possibly the break, from my hiatus. Today King and I celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary. I didn’t think it would be such a big deal, but you know what, IT IS. Today is a milestone in our lives. Ten years. By the grace of God, we have been together ten years!

So many memories! I was just telling Danae the other day that on our first wedding anniversary, when she was nearly a month old, I prepared a candle lit dinner on our living room floor. King and I faced each other while she laid on a thick blanket beside us. I can’t remember what I cooked but I remember the candles and the white blanket. Too bad we didn’t have a proper camera back then. No pictures!

Oh our wedding. I remember the things that went great and things that went wrong. I don’t remember the food except that I dropped my pumpkin soup spoon on my dress hahaha. And my dad, who was so excited. He interrupted our first dance so we could take a picture with relatives! And he grabbed the mic from me to share his excitement, and then to tell our guests what kind of brat I am (or was), hahaha.

One of the things we learned from our leaders even then is how important it is to build memories. And travelling has been one of our favorite things to do — instant memories-builder! Every trip we take becomes a special memory. Mine and King’s first travel experience while we were engaged was for Campus Harvest in Baguio. That was memorable, especially because we had a fight hahaha. The next one was a road trip to Pangasinan with my childhood peers, right after which King and I joined my family in Baguio for a road trip to Ilocos. Of course, our first trip as a married couple was our honeymoon in Camiguin. Because I spent my childhood summers in Cagayan de Oro, it was not my first time there, but it was King’s. Since then, we’ve visited the island a few times — once when Danae was a baby, another time when Noelle was a baby (my cousin’s wedding), and a couple more other times. And to keep with tradition, it will be Gianna’s turn pretty soon. God-wiling, we will continue travelling as a family, and one day hopefully in the near future, King and I will be able to go on the much awaited trip by ourselves.

So many lessons too! We are the first to admit that our marriage is not perfect. We have our own issues — some we have overcome, others we are still working on. I thank the Lord that neither of us gave up on the other. There was never a talk about leaving or taking a time out. I am grateful that God is not done with me yet. Let’s just say that though I have a long long way to go, I’ve come a long way hahaha. We have endured difficult times together, and yes, we have endured each other’s annoying habits. We are continually learning to forgive and love unconditionally, to serve each other, to communicate better, to work as a team, to enjoy what we have, to be better parents. I thank God that I have a partner who refuses to “know it all.” He is always willing to learn and grow with me. Thank God we are surrounded by godly men and women who care about us, whom we can count on not just for friendship but for wise counsel. Our own parents’ marriages are examples to us as well. King’s parents are still happily married, enjoying their ten grandchildren. And if my dad were alive, he and my mom would still be happily married, enjoying their five grandchildren.

Ten years today. Ten years with the love of my life and my best friend, who is fast asleep on our bed. Our older daughters though battling cough and colds, are asleep on their beds. The baby is asleep on me. I’m typing with one hand, my shoulder and arm are about to go numb, I have unfinished work, I’m sleepy and hungry at the same time. BUT ALL IS RIGHT IN MY WORLD. Thank you Lord for King. Thank you Lord for three beautiful daughters. Thank you Lord for ten beautiful years. 🙂

Marriage

Our 9th Wedding Anniversary 1

We celebrated our 9th wedding anniversary this month. King and I had a short date on the day of, while the girls were in their SPARKS class. We revisited Almon Marina, a restaurant where King laid his intentions for me, asking me if I would agree for us to get to know each other better. I thank God for preparing me the day before (yup, you read it right, hahaha — click here for the story), and for orchestrating it so cleverly — God really got me, that I just knew it was right to say yes.

A friend of ours asked me what it felt like to be married for 9 years. I just shrugged, laughed and said I didn’t know because we are so comfortable with each other. Then I said WE’RE COMFORTABLE BUT NOT COMPLACENT. I was surprised by my own words, that I even came up with that answer. But it is the truth.

I am so comfortable with King. We share everything, and I am never afraid to tell him or show him anything. I can be myself. I can always be truthful. I can trust him. He is the same with me. Maybe even too comfortable, haha.

AND YET, I am not complacent because as wonderful a man as he is, he is not immune to temptation. I am not complacent because I know I am not immune to temptation. We cannot be complacent because as happy as we are in our marriage, it is not perfect. We are both flawed, and we need to take extra care so that the TRUST between us is intact. We SELF-GOVERN, maintaining our boundaries with other people and respecting each other’s comfort level when relating to others. We look out for each other and pray for each other. We strive to be on the same page, especially on being parents, constantly realigning ourselves to the word of God and with our goals and desires. We go out on dates. We talk. We remain intimate with each other. We laugh. We play together. We work together. We give each other space. We encourage and support each other. We surprise each other. We go on vacations.  We appreciate one another and constantly express our love for each other in words and in deeds.  We do our best to honor each other, but when we don’t, we admit our mistakes and we forgive each other. We choose to REMAIN IN JESUS because all good fruit comes from Him. Without Him, we can do nothing.

We have been together for nine years, but we are not foolish to think it takes less work to keep our marriage strong and solid. We are growing more and more comfortable with each other, but we remain vigilant with this great gift God gave us to be stewards of. And by His grace, we will still be singing the same tune by our 50th (or 60th?) wedding anniversary. 🙂

 

and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Matthew 19:5-6

Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.

Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. Colossians 3:18-19

“I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. John 15:5

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I Said Yes

King couldn’t offer me the moon because it was too far. He couldn’t offer me the sun because it was too hot. He couldn’t _ADY0013offer me wealth because he had none. But he offered me his love. Exactly nine years ago, he asked me to be his queen. I said yes then, and I would say yes again and again and again.

72887_626859087328790_1406404459_nI love you, babe. You, next to Jesus, are God’s greatest gift to me. You are one of the best reminders of God’s extraordinary work in my life. I cannot thank Him enough for taking me out of the mire, out of the desert, and for ushering me into a new, full life. He redeemed and restored me. He made me new. And as if that wasn’t enough, He blessed me. He gave me you. Happy “ninth proposal anniversary!” I love you. 🙂

 

Family, Marriage, THE BRAINY BUNCH

Eight Years!

King and I celebrated our 8th anniversary with the kids at Marciano’s in South Mall tonight! We ordered Fight Night, composed of a salad, 2 appetizers, lasagna, and a-14 inch pizza. Simple celebration, yummy food, grateful for eight years of highs and lows, successes and failures, joys and sorrows, breakthroughs and struggles. Eight years of LOVING and LEARNING. 🙂

Happy anniversary, Babe! Thanks for dinner! I love you! 🙂

This is post #8 for 8 wonderful years! Check out post #7 here!

Hudson Prawns
Eight years!
Marciano’s Signature Salad
14-inch Bandel’s Margherita Pizza
Joey Tribbiani’s Meat Lasagna
Donnie Dresco Calamares
Still tired from our trip, but grateful for our family!
Marriage, THE BRAINY BUNCH

Eight Years of Learning – The Don’t Song

King and I celebrate our 8th anniversary today! It’s been eight years of highs and lows, successes and failures, joys and sorrows, breakthroughs and struggles. Eight years of LEARNING. We have been to 2 marriage retreats in the past month. We learned a great deal from listening to our leaders’ stories and testimonies.

After Ptr Steve Murrell and his wife Deborah shared about COMMUNICATION, they showed us a music video by Igniter Media to help our husbands communicate better. It’s called THE DON’T SONG, sung by Johnny and Chachi. It has haunted my mind ever since. I took the liberty of taking down the lyrics.

You hear the baby screamin’
But you act like you’re asleep.
Don’t do it. Don’t do it.

Laughin’ is a no-no
When she says “How do I look?”
Don’t do it. That’s ridiculous.

If she says she spells love T-I-M-E
Don’t grammatically correct her.

If she says you both should give it a hundred percent
Don’t tell her that’s impossible…mathematically.

Don’t. Don’t. Don’t.
Don’t. Don’t do it.
Stop. Must stop it.
Cut it out.

Never leave an argument
By yelling out “Well fine!”
Don’t do it.
Unless she was asking how your day was
And you said, it was more like “Well fine.”
Then that’s okay!

When she makes dinner
She needs to do the dishes.
He’s kidding….I was.
That’s your job.

Never tell her jokes like
“What do you do when the dishwasher stops working?
You tell her to get back to work.”

No, that’s not funny.
Maybe a little.
Don’t even think of laughing.

Don’t. Don’t. Don’t.
Do-re-mi-fa-so-la-ti-don’t. Don’t do it.
Stop. Must stop it.
Cut it out.

Always ask about her day.
Help her fold the laundray.
And don’t forget to spray….Lysol in the bathroom.
If you do these, you will see
You’ll make her so happy.
And your marriage will be sturdy…like an oak.

But there are so many things…..

Click here for the awesome music video! Click here for more of Johnny and Chachi!

Disclaimer: I will not be responsible for this song’s effect on your brain. Like I said, it has haunted me ever since I heard and saw it. Now even my kids sing it too. 🙂

Happy 8th anniversary, Babe! Thanks for putting up with me and this song hahaha. I love you! 🙂

This is post #7 out of 8, for 8 wonderful years! Click here for post #6 and here for post #8! 🙂

Marriage, THE BRAINY BUNCH

Eight Years of Learning – Communication

King and I celebrate our 8th anniversary today! It’s been eight years of highs and lows, successes and failures, joys and sorrows, breakthroughs and struggles. Eight years of LEARNING. We have been to 2 marriage retreats in the past month. We learned a great deal from listening to our leaders’ stories and testimonies.

Pastor Steve Murrell and his wife Deborah gave the last session at our marriage retreat in Bellevue. They talked about COMMUNICATION.

They began by showing us a picture of their family because they wanted to remind us that our marriage impacts way beyond the two of us. They gave us many scriptures, all from Proverbs, and helpful practical tips on how to communicate with each other.

Two things jump at me as I look at my notes — exaggeration and nitpicking! When my children exaggerate, using words like ALWAYS, EVERY TIME or NEVER, it really annoys me and sometimes hurts my feelings. At the retreat, I got reminded that I actually do that to King too. It is a barrier to good communication. It actually STOPS communication. Must stop it (the exaggeration), cut it out.

Another barrier to communication is nitpicking. Women tend to stick to accuracy. That is so me! Little details are important to me, and not so much to King (and most men, I hear). I have a thing for stories lining up and being truthful, maybe because my number 1 strength (Strength Finders) is Belief haha. BUT, I must be reminded about picking my battles and my timing.

I am happy to say I think I’m learning to do that! Two weeks ago, King and I spoke at Victory Muntinlupa’s Youth (ONLINE) leadership convergence. While King was sharing about this restaurant and the issues they were dealing with, he got one detail wrong. Because it was a small gathering of about 65 and I was just a few feet away, I sooooo wanted to raise my hand and correct him. Hahaha. Thank God wisdom prevailed! I kept thinking, what would be worse — that I correct him in front of all the young people or that he make one tiny mistake? I held my urge to correct and forgot about it. I told him a day or two later. Breakthrough!

Happy 8th anniversary Babe! We’re steadily improving in this communicating thing. From glory to glory! I love you! 🙂

This is post #6 out of 8, for 8 wonderful years! Click here for post#5 and here for post #7! 🙂