Conversations with Gianna 1

We have this electric racquet that kills mosquitoes. One time….

Me: Sit down. I’m killing mosquitoes.

Gianna: Ok mommy. Don’t kill me mommy.

 

Still on killing mosquitoes…

Me: dzzzztt (joking, pretending to get her with the racquet)

Gianna: I’m a mosquito, mommy?

 

Gianna likes to join in on conversations.

Danae and Noelle: Bla bla bla…..Mishka (a friend of theirs) did bla bla bla

Gianna: (pops up on their window upon hearing Mishka)……Mooska, Mickey Mouse!

Disney Jr’s Mickey Mouse Clubhouse, for those who don’t get it.

 

Gianna was trying to get on the couch, pushing Danae.

Danae: Say excuse meeee.

Gianna: Excuse me.

Danae: Without pushiiiing.

Gianna: Without pushing.

 

Out of the blue…

Gianna: I’m a little kid, mommy.

Me: Yes you’re a little kid.

Gianna: Because… I’m a pipol.

 

Also out of the blue….

Gianna: Are you big?

Me: Yeah I’m big. Are you small?

Gianna: Yeah. I’m the bebe. I’m the little one.

 

At a restaurant….

Me: Gianna, come down. You might hit your chin on the thing.

Gianna: This one? The glass, mommy?

Yes, the thing was indeed the glass partition.

 

On wonder woman….

Gianna: It’s wonder wumen mommy. That’s not for me.

We didn’t let her or Noelle watch it. We told her it’s not for kids.

 

While walking in sm, she was holding King, walking ahead of me….

King: (talking to me) Call your mom.

Gianna: (looking back to me) Moooooom.

 

Hahahah. ❤

 

 

 

3 Life Lessons from Cars 3

Even though I was standing for probably half the movie, because of course, Gianna and her desire to move struck again, I liked Cars 3. It spoke to me.

1. “Truth is always quicker, kid.”

I completely agree. We get to the heart of the issue if we just tell the truth. No mincing of words, no beating around the bush, no sugar-coating or trying to cushion the blow. Always with love, but clear and straight to the point. It will lead to better understanding.

Also, the quicker we hear the truth, the quicker we accept the truth, the quicker we deal with the truth, the quicker we heal, make changes, and move forward. Lightning didn’t like hearing that he was old, but the sooner he accepted it, the better he was able to train for the race. Denial, because of pride, just delays the inevitable. It’s counterproductive. It does not solve the issue. It may even make things worse. We should seek the truth with humility. Be open to correction and advice.

2. “My last chance to give you your first chance.”

Lightning McQueen prepared the way, showed the way, and though that wasn’t his plan, he got out of the way. In his pursuit to become faster and better, he taught his trainor, Cruz, to race. And in his last chance to win and continue his career in racing, he gave her the opportunity to shine. Even if it meant she would outshine him. Her youth, her speed, and her passion were an advantage. He even continued to coach her during the race. This ought to be our attitude in discipleship and parenting, but deliberately and with a goal. We lead, we teach, we let them grow, we tap their potential, and we let them soar. We take a chance on them, support them, root for them, believe in them. We celebrate when the “rookies” (our children, both biological and spiritual), turn out ten times better than us. We continue to be there to guide and mentor.

And like Lightning, we don’t quit. We don’t quit life. We don’t quit church. We don’t stop discipling others when our mentees outgrow and outshine us. We don’t stop because we’re getting old. We keep running the race with them. We make disciples together. Better and stronger, together.

3. “You got into his head.” “You’re a racer. Use that.”

Storm was a fast racer, but he played dirty. He fought dirty. Not with how he raced, but with his words. He would act all supportive and pleasant, but he was really speaking death to Lightning, implying retirement, the end of his career, the decline of his talent or skill. He used the same tactic on Cruz, when she was catching up to him during the race. He told her the lie that she did not belong there, that she did not have it in her to be a racer, that she was just a trainer/motivator. All while smiling and appearing to encourage her. Cruz almost believed him. But Lightning told her that the only reason Storm was trying to get into her head was because she had already gotten into his. He was afraid she would beat him. Satan is exactly like that. He is the expert at planting seeds of doubt, fear, hopelessness in our hearts. He does that because he is afraid of us. He is afraid of our potential to ruin his plans. He is afraid of our calling, which is to advance God’s kingdom. He is afraid of our design, which is to bring glory to God.

If Satan fights with lies, we fight with the truth. We must always remember and be secure of who we are in Christ. The power of Satan lies on our belief in his lies. When we are armed with the truth of who our God is, of who we are and whose we are, we can overcome. Cruz overcame when she believed in who she was. She was a racer. No amount of lying or berating Storm did, changed that. She did not let him go on “winning.” She did not cower in defeat. She did not give in to discouragement. She fought back and came out victorious.

 

Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ. Eph 4:15

And what you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses entrust to faithful men who will be able to teach others also. 2 Timothy 2:2

For all who are led by the Spirit of God are sons of God. For you did not receive the spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but you have received the Spirit of adoption as sons, by whom we cry, “Abba! Father!” Romans 8:14-15

 

Gianna’s words 2

Can you translate?

Tinny time. Spikamoween…..Despicabonee. Finding Meemo. Feauty and the beast. Mr. Potts. Hello cutie. Madiktuffins. Madikdonalds. Peeyador (chipmunks). Mooza Kappa. Baymask. PJ max. Kalis (in Wonderland). Nafan and Kafleen (original Hi5). Kiddy. Seehorse.

Fumbs up. Funder. Jimastics. Cwack a egg. Chocolate poop. Mashe-tato. Skwotz (vitamins). Wodder.

Pateo (girls’ schoolmate). Hoklay. Maffew.

 

Gianna likes Doc McStuffins, and pretends to be her.

Gianna: What’s wong, mommy? (with her kit in hand)

Me: Hmmm?

Gianna: Is your tummy penful?

Other times, she says “I need Madiktuffins ektoscopt.”

 

One time, we were lined up waiting for the elevator. People were passing or lining up as well, and she said, “It’s pipols, mommy. Plenty pipols.”

 

Sometimes whenshe begs me for something, part of her act is to say “pleeyus?” instead of the usual please.

 

Gianna surprises and makes us all laugh when she blurts out words we don’t expect.

“Yaaaas!” with such excitement.

“I’m so bored.” with a sigh and shoulders slumping.

“What’s the deal, man?”

 

If you ask her who her mommy is, she says “Tita Phoebe.”

 

 

40 things in 40 years

So I turned 40 last week. Here are 40 things I’ve learned so far.

  1. I am called to live a life of PURPOSE, a life to the full. Not just to merely exist, to just get by. Not just for me, myself, and I.
  2. I am a woman, a wife, a queen, a mom, a Torres, a Lucero, a daughter, an in-law, a friend, a sister, a relative, a minister, a disciple, a leader, a follower, a speaker, a writer, a teacher, a host, a volunteer, a Filipino. I am many things, but I am first a CHILD OF GOD. I am loved. I am His.
  3. WITHOUT JESUS, I can do NOTHING. Without Jesus, I am nothing. John 15:5 is my life verse.
  4. Be IN AWE OF JESUS. Never get over how much He loves you and I. That He suffered and died on the cross to pay for your sins and mine. Something you and I totally do not deserve. Something you and I can’t do for ourselves. Something only He was qualified to do. So that you and I can be reconciled with the Father. So that you and I can be forgiven. So that you and I can be free to go back to our original design, which is to love, honor, and commune with God. So that you and I can spend eternity with God in heaven. I am forever grateful.
  5. GOD’S TIMING is PERFECT. He has shown me time and time again that there is a need to pray and believe, but there is no need to rush. Cases in point — my husband, each of my children’s conception and birth, restoration of relationships, our home, provision, etc.
  6. Choosing who to marry is one of the most CRUCIAL CHOICES a person can make. It has an impact on one’s entire lifetime and on the generations that follow them. I thank God for the grace in helping me to wait and to choose King.
  7. My grandparents on both sides were Christians who were actively involved in their church communities, and I am a product (a pleasant shock to everybody, including me haha) of their prayers and their decision to follow Jesus. Our life choices today affect our children and the generations after them. We continue the LEGACY of loving and serving the Lord, and we leave the same legacy to our children, who will do the same with theirs, and so on.
  8. Having a husband pushes me to grow. It teaches me to serve, to love, to be humble, to be patient, to be gentle, to pursue peace, to be generous. Marriage is the means. CHRIST IS THE GOAL.
  9. Care to communicate. If you CARE, you will make the effort to COMMUNICATE. If you don’t communicate, you will seem like you don’t care.
  10. Purity and holiness is not only applicable to singles. Married couples all the more need to stay strong in their conviction to remain PURE AND HOLY. Guard the heart, the eyes, the ears, the tongue, the mind, the body. We are not immune to temptations, and there is more at stake if we fall.
  11. To VOLUNTEER, to SERVE is always worthwhile and fulfilling. When I was single, I thought I would be married to someone rich who would allow me to not work and let me volunteer in church full time. Haha. God did give me a King to marry, I’m a stay-at-home mom, and I volunteer as much as I can!
  12. Women are wonderful beings. I used to be more comfortable making guy friends because I thought girls were just too complicated, or that I was just different from most of them. But I found treasure in talking to and learning from them. God gave me an opportunity to build new, true FRIENDSHIPS WITH WOMEN in church.
  13. Children are BLESSINGS from the Lord! They have a way of warming a person’s heart, adding joy to a home, making adults child-like again. I praise God I have my own and am surrounded by many others. 
  14. Seek WISDOM, listen and heed wise counsel. Learn from those who have gone ahead of us. 
  15. It’s easier to make decisions when you know your PRIORITIES. Sometimes it’s sad to miss out on some things, but it’s almost always worth it.
  16. Give HONOR to whom honor is due. Do not withhold words of encouragement and praise. 
  17. It is possible to agree to disagree, and maintain MUTUAL RESPECT towards one another.
  18. PICK YOUR BATTLES. Not everything needs to be dealt with a long, serious discussion. Not everything has to be a big deal. There are things we fight for, some things we can drop. There are things we cannot compromise, but some things we can give an easy yes to. Lighten up. Let go of the little things.
  19. I appreciate HONESTY WITH LOVE. I don’t like general statements that are meant for me to “get.” If there is an issue that needs to be addressed with me, I prefer that it be said to me directly. One, because I am not a Jedi and I actually may not “get” it. Two, because I think it’s cruel to leave a person guessing, wondering, assuming, and never being certain of what the message is. 
  20. Instead of assuming and therefore incorrectly reacting, communicate. LISTEN first. Ask. Clarify. Then work out the proper response. 
  21. ACKNOWLEDGE. When someone is speaking to you. When someone says hello. When someone asks you a question. When someone messages you. When someone invites you. Don’t leave them hanging. Give them due respect by acknowledging and responding. 
  22. I can deliberately CHANGE THE ATMOSPHERE in my home. A little encouragement, a few laughs, some hugs and kisses go a long way, especially for my kids. 
  23. My children are my MIRRORS. More is caught than taught. *cringe
  24. It’s easier to teach than to set the right example. But teaching my kids pushes me to be a good example. It shouldn’t just be practice what we preach, but PREACH what we PRACTICE. 
  25. Parenting is not easy. Husband and wife having the same values and goals, and being on the SAME PAGE, is key. 
  26. My ability as a parent will always fall short, therefore I must not rely on it. Only God can transform my children’s hearts. Sometimes less talk and MORE PRAYER is what is needed. Get out of the way. We need to let the Lord speak to our kids.
  27. Parenting is easier when you are in a COMMUNITY that cares about your children. Friends who love, not judge. Friends who are watchmen and prayer warriors, not gossips. Thankful for dear friends and my spiritual family.
  28. Forgiveness is FREEDOM! To forgive and be forgiven.  
  29. I can only HELP those who want to be helped. 
  30. Sometimes it’s not a question of ability or availability, but of WILLINGNESS. You can’t force somebody to do what they don’t want to do. 
  31. The lie of the enemy holds no power when we do not believe it. Cling to the TRUTH. Cling to God’s word.
  32. Not everybody (not even in church) will want to be our friend, and that’s okay. We can’t please everybody. We don’t need to be friends with everybody. But BE KIND anyway.
  33. IT’S OKAY not to be invited. It might sting at times, but I’ve learned that it does not always mean rejection. It does not always mean we are not valued or loved. But even if it does, it’s still okay. We get love, our value, our validation from God, not from people.
  34. Those you care about don’t always care as much about you. Those you have invested time, energy and love in, don’t always appreciate you. It’s a SAD REALITY, but God sees our heart. Again, we get our security and validation from Him.
  35. There are FRIENDS who stick closer than a brother. Those that remember my birthday without facebook, hahaha (though I must admit, I need facebook to remind me also). Those that are there for me, will be there for me without hesitation when I need them, even though we don’t see each other often. Those that love and accept me despite my flaws. Those who hope for the best for me and believe in me. Those that will cry and care about what happens to my family when I die. Thank you, friends. You know who you are.  
  36. First impressions should not last. Give people a CHANCE. I did, and I found sisters in a few who were then “unlovable” in my judgmental eyes.
  37. GOD’S GRACE is sufficient and it is evident — in the day to day, in the milestones, in loss, in gain, in life, in death, in the highs and in the lows. We just need to see with eyes of faith and gratitude.
  38. GOD’S WORD is living and active. It will not return to Him empty, but will accomplish what He has set for it to accomplish. 
  39. God TRANSFORMS, and He is not finished with me yet. 
  40. TRUTH. REPENTANCE. FAITH. Everyday.

Gianna and food

As we were ordering at Silantro on King’s birthday months ago, we asked Gianna what she wanted. She said HOPIA. And then later on she asked “where’s my hopia?” No, there’s no hopia in Silantro haha. She used to call it hoopa, then ho–pya, then hoopia, before hopia.

 

Also some months ago, I asked her if she wanted noodles. I call every kind of pasta/noodle, noodles, to simplify it. She said to me “That’s not noodles mommy. That’s miswa.” It was.

 

When she drinks something like “hansi” (calamansi) juice or sinigang, she comments that it’s “super sour.”

 

Last week, she saw crabs served on the dining table.

Gianna: mommy, it’s a crab!

Me: yeah you want?

Gianna: yeah! Because I’m……shineeeh! (Moana)

 

She likes to “steal” wowa’s boiled eggs. She says that she wants to “cwack a egg.”

 

A month or so ago, we were driving home from church probably.

I heard Gianna struggling with something. Until she stopped.

Gianna: Hold. (giving her milk to a friend of theirs)

And then she slept. She was apparently struggling to put her on the door handle and couldn’t. She fell asleep right away.

 

One time, I didn’t notice that she took a packet of Ovaltine from the pantry. I just found her face full of chocolate powder, and noticed traces of her handiwork. She cut the packet open by herself in the kitchen and spilled practically half the contents on the counter.

 

She wanted to come with me today, but I needed to leave her because of a church activity. She kept following me, trying to convince me to take her.

Me: I’ll just bring you something, ok? You want donut?

Gianna: yes. Strawberry, mommy. See u later mommy!

Just like that.

 

When she had her bout with diarrhea…

Me: see gianna? You can’t eat chocolate first. Your tummy and butt get owie.

Gianna: I can’t eat chocolate?

Me: yeah.

Gianna: “Habbout” ice cream?

Haha kain pa din. 🙂

It’s a good thing!

I am a stay-at-home mom. Even though my older girls go to school everyday, I am with them at breakfast and after school. It’s not often that I go out, though I do drive them to their after-school and weekend activities, because the littlest one is with me. I have to plan my moves. I’m blessed that my mom stays with us and I can now leave Gianna with her sometimes. We have a Manang and the two older girls can pretty much fend for themselves. Many times, I bring a kid or the kids along when I have a meeting in church on a weekday and King can be bothered. There is strength in numbers, so I feel safer when all 3 or 2 are together at home as opposed to leaving only 1 at home alone with Manang (on the times that my mom is not around). As much as I can help it, I don’t stay out long either. In other words, we’re together a whole lot.

But, on the rare occasion that I leave without them, they’re always chatty when I come back! So chatty, that they fight for my attention. “Mom! Mom! Look at this.” “You know what, mom?” “Mom, look what I made.” “Mom, look what I can do.” “Mom, can I show you something?” “Heeeey, I was talking to mom first.” The littlest one now knows to say “Mom! Talk to me.” Hahaha. Sometimes they overwhelm me. King jokes that they miss me. We’re always together!

But I realize that my children love to talk to me. They want to spend time with me. They enjoy my company. They’re not tired of me (yet). Even when I embarrass them (deliberately or accidentally), I know they secretly like it. They laugh at and with me. They want my attention, my affection, and my opinion. The older ones complain when they notice that I leave home like 3 days in a row. It’s tiring at times, and the pressure is incredible. But you know what, it’s a good thing! My kids not only love me. THEY LIKE ME! They really really like me! Hahahaha.

When Gianna knows I’ve parked, she already goes to the window and screams for me. “Mommy? Weeeeee mommy’s here!” Sometimes she’ll say “You’re back, mommy? Yay!” She makes my heart smile each time. I think (I hope) she is past her recent phase of wanting me by her side at all times, like she would call me IN A PANIC, once she realizes that I’m not near her. She would cry for me not to go to the bathroom! Anyway, the older girls don’t get as excited, but they’re always happy to see me too.

Thank you Lord for this massive blessing. To be loved AND liked by my kids is indeed a good thing. ❤

Children are a gift from the Lord;
    they are a reward from him. Psalm 127:3

 

T.R.E.N.D.S.

I’m not one who is easily influenced by today’s trends. I like what I like, and they may not necessarily be what’s cool at the moment. Actually, sometimes I only have cool (but very useful) stuff because my husband or mom or friends give them to me as gifts haha. Anyway, this is something we want our kids to learn. To be wise and discerning, and not easily be drawn to the world’s trends.

T.EMPORARY. Trends are temporary. Styles of clothes, shoes, bags, gadgets, homes, even diets and workouts change so quickly. One day it’s in, and the next day, it’s out. All sorts of lists of new establishments and food to try. Vacation spots and unique experiences to put on the bucket list (and hopefully not the “bakit?! list”). The newest movies, shows, bands and artists to check out. The latest toys and apps to play. I’m sure most of us want to be updated and relevant. But why chase the coolest and the latest? Why put a premium on commodities that are so fleeting? When we purchase, or dive into, or buy into something, it shouldn’t be just because it’s cool (or hot or lit — depending on which generation you belong to — I myself can’t seem to bring myself to say hot or lit, haha), or because it’s new. Let’s please have a more sane, better, bigger reason than that. Let’s ask ourselves if they are useful and helpful, if they add value to our life or other people’s.

R.ECKLESS. Following trends may cause us to make reckless, rash decisions. Things change so fast, and trying to keep up with them produces impulsive actions. I believe there is much wisdom in delayed gratification. We get to think, to mull it over, to give it some time. Usually, when the motivation is just the trend’s novelty, the interest quickly wanes. This happens to our kids often. They tell us about a new toy that their friends have, a cool but expensive brand of clothes, a new diy idea (yeah, like allergy-causing slime), a pet, an event they want to join or watch, a place they want to visit. We don’t readily say yes because we want to know first what we’ll be getting ourselves into. We want to figure out what it will entail (for us and for them), and if we are willing AND able to do it. It teaches our kids to wait, to pray, to think, to weigh what’s important to them and what’s really not, and then to either let go or persevere. Trust me, as a parent, there have been times that I’ve kicked myself in the head, so to speak, for saying yes to something that they wanted but was not the best idea. There are still moments that I’m torn between giving them what they want and being wise, and I end up telling them that I can feel that this is one of those times that I’ll be kicking myself in the head if I say yes. I already see the results, and so wisdom wins and I say no. As adults, we know what it’s like to make reckless decisions that leave us with consequences and with regret. We realize later on that we shouldn’t have jumped the gun, or that we shouldn’t have jumped at all.

E.XCESS. Trends are exciting and fun, but they potentially lead to excess. Trends cost money. Chasing fads leaves us with a lot of waste — items that are still good, but are no longer used because we’ve moved on to the latest model. Chasing trends may cost us more money than we actually have. Let’s not get into debt just so we can be like the cool kids (like the cool kids). Have money? Let’s not spend it all. My kids sometimes come to me and tell me that they want to purchase something, and that they have the money for it. They’re willing to blow their savings for 1 concert ticket or 1 expensive pair of shoes. I ask them, then what? Of course they say it’s okay because they think money grows on trees (or more aptly, the bank gives us endless supply of cash), but when they actually need the money for something important, they’ll no longer have the means. It’s wise to have savings, especially for a rainy day. Have money to spare? Okay. Occasional splurging is okay. Bless someone, treat yourself, do something nice with or for the family. I’m all for that, especially when, for me personally, it’s travel.

N.ECESSARY. The next question we ought to ask ourselves is “Is this necessary?” “Is it necessary for me to have or do this?” “Do I need this?” “Do I need it now?” If the answer is yes and you have the resources to purchase and/or commit to it, then by all means, go for it. But more often than not, we don’t really need it. We can live without it. Or we can do it another time, catch the next opportunity. We ask our kids this all the time. If it’s necessary for school, of course we do our best to get it for them. But again, it teaches them to think, to work within a budget, and to think outside of themselves. We have three children, and we need to think of all three of them, not just the one (or two) who wants something. So they have to think of their siblings as well. They have to think about what works for our family, and not just for themselves. We also remind them that even though we do have the budget for something, we still need to make wise choices with our finances. There are better, more important, more worthwhile things to spend on than the latest trend. Everything is permissible, but not everything is beneficial (1 Cor 10:23). And there is a right time for everything.

D.ISTRACTING. Trends tend to distract us from our goals. From our priorities. They keep our time, focus, energy, and resources from going where they should. There are trends that do help us pursue our goal, that add to our skill and knowledge, that are useful in our profession, that are fun for bonding and de-stressing, that promote family togetherness, make us grow and all that — good things to invest in. And there are those that don’t. Those that are useless and fruitless. We need to sift through these fads with wisdom. It may be a need, but not the priority. It may be affordable, but not necessary. It may be a good opportunity, but the timing is off. It may be fun, but too pricey. It may sound good, but it would tear you away from your family. We need wisdom, prayer, and at times godly counsel. It’s quite easy to be influenced by ads, commercials, and friends. Our kids are especially prone to this. Even though some seem harmless, we like to research, ask around first. We remind them that not everything good, is necessarily good or right for us. Not everything available, we must avail. Not everything advertised, suggested or offered, we must take. It teaches them to think, determine their priorities, and to be responsible with those priorities.

S.ATISFYING. I always hear this from my girls, though not necessarily about trends – it’s so satisfying! Following trends and accumulating stuff can be satisfying! We feel happy, giddy even. To own the cool thing. To experience the latest craze. To belong to the in crowd. It gives us some satisfaction. Sadly, it’s a false sense of satisfaction. It’s satisfaction that does not last, so we end up wanting more and more because we chase that feeling of pleasure. This is the time we must dig into our hearts. The time to pray. We might be trying to fill a void, striving to make ourselves happy. None of these, however, will ever fill the emptiness. Material things, experiences, people – they’re all temporary, all inconstant, all limited. We need the eternal, the unchanging, the unlimited source of satisfaction, and that is only God Himself. With God, there is true joy and contentment. No more striving, no more chasing useless and fruitless things. We gain the ability to see God’s goodness and be grateful for every blessing. Because God, if He really is our source, is more than enough.

Blessed are those who find wisdom,
    those who gain understanding,
for she is more profitable than silver
    and yields better returns than gold.
She is more precious than rubies;
    nothing you desire can compare with her.
Long life is in her right hand;
    in her left hand are riches and honor.
Her ways are pleasant ways,
    and all her paths are peace.
She is a tree of life to those who take hold of her;
    those who hold her fast will be blessed. Proverbs 3:13-18

 

You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore. Psalm 16:11

Bless the Lord, O my soul, and all that is within me, bless his holy name! Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits, who forgives all your iniquity, who heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the pit, who crowns you with steadfast love and mercy, who satisfies you with good so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s. Psalm 103:1-5

Gianna’s words 1

Gianna is nearly 3 and she, like most little girls, is a talker. She’s also at that stage of creating her own monologues, talking to her dolls and laughing by herself. Just now, she came to me and told me that her barbie is hurt. She made our breakfast tray table into a slide for herself, and she let her toys slide too. Last night, she was pretending to be a cat and used the hamper as her cage. Noelle has something to do with her pretend play, as her sister would often initiate that game.

She surprises us a lot with her words. The day after she and I went home from family camp, she said to me “yesternight, we left ate noelle?” She must have figured if we say yesterday, why not yesternight if it happened last night? Nobody uses that word in our house. Nobody taught her that.

Her sentences make sense, though not always grammatically correct. This morning, she saw a picture, and she commented, “He have a scooter just like mine.”

Just now, she saw a screw on the pile of coins she’s playing with and said, “sharp” and gave it to me. And then a few seconds later said, “Found another one.”

Before she even turned 2, I believe, she already recognized “Cacia,” especially coming from Petron. She surprised us one time, coming from Commerce Center, when she said “Cacia! Cacia!” Now she says, “We’re going to Acacia?” or “I want to go to Acacia” even when it’s not a Sunday. (Victory Alabang has 11am and 3pm services in Acacia Hotel.)

Months ago, when I would tell her that a video on the internet is not working, she would tell me that “it’s loading, mommy.” When she couldn’t figure something out, she’d say, “How do dis?” One time, I asked her how do dis while pointing to my phone, she said “password.” Another time she answered, “I don’t know how. Aks daddy.” When she couldn’t make the volume work, she said to me “Mommy, it’s not louding.”

One time after a bath, I told her that she’s super wet. She asked me, “I’m Super Wet? Like a super hero?”

A few weeks ago, while taking a shower, she proudly told me that she killed an ant/insect. “I kill it!” And then she took her toy again and said “I kill it some more, mommy.”

I showed her the cotton on my arm after I had my blood drawn for some tests last week. I told her I got an owi, but that I was okay. She noticed later on that it was gone, and she asked me “You removed it? You okay?”

One time, she came into my room and told me “She’s mad at me.” I kept asking who was mad at her. Apparently my mom (gently) scolded her for not obeying. Another time, she came in and said “Mommy, she bite my skirt.” I asked who bit her skirt, and she said “the door.”

She says “I dunno” like an adult. I’ve heard her say “eeder (either).” She says “o see????” and “jussss kidding!” and “Whas going on?” She says “ekyoos me” too. She used to say “aproom,” but now just gives a thumbs up when she approves of something.

When she turned two, a friend of mine joked and taught her to say that she’s 5. Since then, it’s been hard to convince her that she’s 2! I would ask her how old she is, and she’d say “five.” One time, I told her that no, she’s 2. She said “No, I’m 5.” Thank God now she puts up 3 fingers when asked how old she is. I’m training her to say that she’s 3.

One time, she looked into one of Danae’s bags and said, “there’s no stuff, mommy.” She also knows the word empty, of course.

Some time last month probably, I was looking for one of their friends. I was thinking out loud. She answered me with “There. Beside Danae.” And she was right.

One time, she was about to spill over the container of paper clips. She was looking at me, smiling, and asked, “It’s okay?” I said no it’s not, and she replied with “It IS.” She has since refuted other things I’ve said with her “It IS.”

When she wants to end a story, she closes the book and says “Be end (the end).”

Before she used to answer “mmmm, maybe” or “mmmm, nope.” She also likes to say, quite nasally “mmm-hmmm” as her yes. One time I asked her if I could bite her butt, she said no. Noelle asked if she could bite mine, and Gianna willingly gave up my butt, saying “shore!”

But she loves mommy. When she sees me getting dressed, she always says “Can I go?” “I want to go oso.” When I can’t bring her, I tell her “I’ll be back.” Sometimes, she’s okay with it and says “You’ll be back, mommy?” even before I say it. Other times, she cries. One time, I hadn’t even left but just got something from the bathroom, she said “Are you back, mommy?” She’s always happy to see me back.

She volunteers to pray now, and she usually says, “Lord, thank you for myself….” and continues to thank the Lord for each of us. 🙂

 

Children are a gift from the Lord;
    they are a reward from him. Psalm 127:3

 

 

 

Of farts and other gross things

When somebody in our family farts near Gianna, she is sure to point it out. “You farted, (member of the family).” Not to make fun. She just says it as if to inform the person. 🙂

When she smells something bad, she immediately sniffs her hand, fidgets, and says “smells bad.” Sometimes she tries to locate the smell. Sometimes she actually leaves. She used to even wave her hand near her face. 🙂

One time, somebody released a really nasty one, and she commented, “eeeeew, smells bad (member of the family). Go to the bafroom.” 🙂

When somebody burps, she says “bless you!” 🙂

She has no problem picking up and eating food that she dropped on the floor! At times we catch her and stop her in time. Other times, we are too late. 🙂

For some reason, she calls cheese burgers “cheese booger.” So now we call her boogers “cheese booger.” 🙂

She has these tiny (fits in my hand) toy chairs for small dolls, which she calls toilets. She has always associated them and similar chairs to the toilet. Nobody taught her that. A few months ago, one family member was sitting on the toilet, and she put the said chair below the family member and said “you’re pooping.” 🙂

She also now knows to say gross when appropriate, like when one family member farted today, and when she accidentally saw a kiss on tv. 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

Oh Motherhood!

Oh motherhood!

“Mooooooommmm?” 

“Heeeeeeelllpppp!”

“Can I have rice please?” When the bowl of rice is an arm’s reach away.

“I can’t find it.” And IT (whatever IT is) is right there in front of her.

“Mommy, look!” “Mom mom, look!” “Mommy, look at me!” All at once.

“Mommy o!” “Mom, she (insert verb) me!”

“Carry!” 

“Only mommy.”

“Stay here, mommy.”

“Don’t go, mommy.”

“Stay with me.” When we’ve been together ALL day, EVERY day.

“I’m scared. Can you come with me?” To the kitchen, in our house.

“Can you feed me?”

“I’m hungry.” After just having a meal.

“I’m thirsty. Can you get me water?” “I want milk.” When you’re already lying in bed.

“Mom? Mom? Mom? (tapping or shaking your arm) Can I (insert verb)? Can I have (insert noun)?” While you’re fast asleep.

“No! Please? 5 more minutes (which always translates to more)?” When you’ve already told them 5 minutes before that we’re leaving in 5 minutes.

“Aww, please mom? Can I just…..? It’s just so and so pesos. But you said….. But we haven’t…. But my friends…..” Negotiation after you’ve already answered their question.

 “I don’t like the rod.” 

“Mom, I don’t get it. Can you help me?” And then she’ll fight with you because she thinks you’re making it harder.

“Can you hold this?” “Can you put it in your bag?” Like the baby isn’t heavy enough.

“Awwwgh….” When you ask them to do you a tiny favor.

“Why me? I didn’t make that mess.”

“I want to buy this.” “I want to get that.” 

“How come he/she (friend or cousin) is allowed?” 

“Can you read with me?” When you’re already so so sleepy.

“Can you make chicken ala king and phoebe for lunch?” When it’s 30 minutes to lunch time.

“Ow, ow, oooooowwwww….” With so much tears and loud crying.

“I don’t want to sleep!”

“I don’t want to take a bath!”

“Waaaiiiit.” After the nth reminder.

“It’s so hard.” “I never get to have any fun!” “It’s always NO.” Sweeping statements of ungratefulness, even after a fun vacation.

“What if someone asks me on a date?”

“I think he has a crush on me.”

“I think he has a crush on ate.”

“He’s cute…..” If only I could put into words the sound of King, loading a shotgun. 😛

 

So many words, so many needs, so many wants, so many delays, so many excuses, so many arguments, so many questions. Mommy this, mommy that. These are the things that make me tired, exasperated, feel pressured, feel frustrated, and feel panicked. And at the same time, these are what make me GRATEFUL for being their mommy.

Motherhood is a joy. Quality and quantity time. Family. Fun. Games. Tickles. Piggy back rides. Laughter. Silliness. Dancing. Food. Trips. Dates. Memories. Service. Car rides. Times of house arrest. Sickness. Errands. Budget concerns. Conflicts of schedule. Conflicts of interest. Clash of personalities. Arguments. Stress. Bonding. Growing together. It’s not always great, but by the grace, love, and redemptive work of God, good always comes out of anything bad. We rest in the promise of God that as we walk in obedience to Him, we will EAT THE FRUIT OF OUR LABOR. The sacrifices we make are worth it. 

Motherhood is a privilege. Secrets. Open and intimate conversations. Inside jokes. Family meetings or one-on-one talks. Sensitive topics. Senseless topics. Friends. Feelings. Hurts. Heart issues. Dreams. Likes and dislikes. Crushes. Movies. Shows. Music. Social Media. Quirks. Habits. We have the opportunity to knit a close relationship with our children. We have the privilege to be part of their lives, to KNOW them, to WATCH them, to LOVE and ENJOY them. 

Motherhood is a stewardship. Teaching. Training. Listening. Learning. Discipline. Teamwork. Character building. Strengths building. Life skills. Discovering and developing talents. Discipleship. Volunteering. Church. Worship. Prayers. Faith. Bible. Wisdom. The Gospel. Loving and honoring God. God gave us captive audiences since our children were conceived in our womb. We have the opportunity to teach, inspire, impart, lead, empower, equip. We need to BE DELIBERATE in using, and not wasting, this opportunity. 

Motherhood is a gift. Smiles. Hugs. Regular kisses. Eskimo kisses. Nguso kisses. Thank yous. I love yous. I miss yous. Sorries. I forgive yous. UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. Yes, we have the opportunity to give it to our kids, but we also have the opportunity to receive it from our kids. They not only need us. They love us, despite our failure to love them. They love us, just because we are MOMMY. ❤ ❤ ❤ 

 

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I have very few pictures of me with the girls. It’s because I like taking pictures more than being in them. I hate and am not good at taking selfies (self-wes). My phone lacks the space for new pictures. But yeah, I need to be deliberate in having my picture taken with them. ❤ 

Thank you Lord, for making us mothers.

HAPPY MOTHERS’ DAY TO ALL THE MOMMIES OUT THERE! ❤

 

Blessed are all who fear the Lord,

who walk in obedience to him.

You will eat the fruit of your labor;

blessings and prosperity will be yours.

Your wife will be like a fruitful vine

within your house;

your children will be like olive shoots

around your table.

Yes, this will be the blessing

for the man who fears the Lord. PSALM 128:1-4