Courtship. It’s the stage in a man and woman’s life where they get to know each other better. The HONORABLE MAN lays down his intentions to the woman whom he has been praying for (take a hint, ladies: he has a relationship with God), and if the woman agrees (take a hint, gentlemen: it has to be mutual, she has to like you too), they go out on dates by themselves. And no, it is not the same as boyfriend-girlfriend relationships, nor “mutual understanding” between two people.
Courtship has a GOAL. The man and the woman SEEK THE LORD and learn more about each other, with MARRIAGE IN MIND. (Take a huge hint here and everywhere, gentlemen!) The honorable man doesn’t court a girl for the heck of it. He does so with much apprehension and fear of possible rejection, and at the same time with much boldness and conviction, sure that he wants to pursue the woman (another hint, ladies: the man pursues you) and possibly marry her.
The honorable man is emotionally ready and is spiritually mature. He does NOT let his emotions rule him. He seeks God first and he guards his heart AND actions. The honorable man has a PLAN! He clearly lays down his intentions to the woman. He does not mislead her by hanging around her often and not saying a word about what he’s doing. He courts her IN THE OPEN, not hiding behind “friendship.” And he lays down his intentions because he is READY TO BACK IT UP with a marriage proposal — ready for a lifetime commitment, ready to provide, ready to lay down his life for his wife just as Christ did for the church. (Take a huge hint here, ladies: If a man is spending way too much time with you, getting to know you without even stating his intentions, HE IS NOT HONORING YOU. Don’t allow any man to dishonor you, no matter how much you actually like him.)
Whether or not the two end up together, courtship will still be a success. It will accomplish its goal. The only time it is not successful is when the man and the woman cross the line, when they stop honoring each other. They cannot go back to friendship or even civility if they do not remain pure and holy before the Lord. They cannot go back to friendship if they do not maintain mutual respect for each other. They will have a difficult time healing from unnecessary heartache caused by broken promises. (Hint, ladies and gentlemen: courtship is not a license for you to let your guard down emotionally, physically and spiritually. Guard your words, guard your actions, guard your heart.)
I am inspired to write this because I am seeing this before my very eyes. Honor and nobility are not dead among our men! 🙂
But the noble make noble plans,
and by noble deeds they stand. Isaiah 32:8