King and I celebrate our 8th anniversary today! It’s been eight years of highs and lows, successes and failures, joys and sorrows, breakthroughs and struggles. Eight years of LEARNING. We have been to 2 marriage retreats in the past month. We learned a great deal from listening to our leaders’ stories and testimonies.

After Ptr Steve Murrell and his wife Deborah shared about COMMUNICATION, they showed us a music video by Igniter Media to help our husbands communicate better. It’s called THE DON’T SONG, sung by Johnny and Chachi. It has haunted my mind ever since. I took the liberty of taking down the lyrics.

You hear the baby screamin’
But you act like you’re asleep.
Don’t do it. Don’t do it.

Laughin’ is a no-no
When she says “How do I look?”
Don’t do it. That’s ridiculous.

If she says she spells love T-I-M-E
Don’t grammatically correct her.

If she says you both should give it a hundred percent
Don’t tell her that’s impossible…mathematically.

Don’t. Don’t. Don’t.
Don’t. Don’t do it.
Stop. Must stop it.
Cut it out.

Never leave an argument
By yelling out “Well fine!”
Don’t do it.
Unless she was asking how your day was
And you said, it was more like “Well fine.”
Then that’s okay!

When she makes dinner
She needs to do the dishes.
He’s kidding….I was.
That’s your job.

Never tell her jokes like
“What do you do when the dishwasher stops working?
You tell her to get back to work.”

No, that’s not funny.
Maybe a little.
Don’t even think of laughing.

Don’t. Don’t. Don’t.
Do-re-mi-fa-so-la-ti-don’t. Don’t do it.
Stop. Must stop it.
Cut it out.

Always ask about her day.
Help her fold the laundray.
And don’t forget to spray….Lysol in the bathroom.
If you do these, you will see
You’ll make her so happy.
And your marriage will be sturdy…like an oak.

But there are so many things…..

Click here for the awesome music video! Click here for more of Johnny and Chachi!

Disclaimer: I will not be responsible for this song’s effect on your brain. Like I said, it has haunted me ever since I heard and saw it. Now even my kids sing it too. 🙂

Happy 8th anniversary, Babe! Thanks for putting up with me and this song hahaha. I love you! 🙂

This is post #7 out of 8, for 8 wonderful years! Click here for post #6 and here for post #8! 🙂

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About Phoebe Torres-Lucero

I am Phoebe Torres-Lucero, wife of a loving husband & dedicated pastor, King, and mother to three wonderful, smart, active little girls, Danae, Noelle and Gianna. Phoebe means bright and radiant. Torres means towers. Lucero means light. Put together, my name speaks of a tower of bright, radiant light. And that is what I hope to be as I write and share with you some of my experiences, especially on being a mom.

5 responses »

  1. […] This is post #8 for 8 wonderful years! Check out post #7 here! […]

  2. […] Two things jump at me as I look at my notes — exaggeration and nitpicking! When my children exaggerate, using words like ALWAYS, EVERY TIME or NEVER, it really annoys me and sometimes hurts my feelings. At the retreat, I got reminded that I actually do that to King too. It is a barrier to good communication. It actually STOPS communication. Must stop it (the exaggeration), cut it out. […]

  3. so curious to hear this song…:)

  4. oh link is here. i shall watch….

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