King and I celebrate our 8th anniversary today! It’s been eight years of highs and lows, successes and failures, joys and sorrows, breakthroughs and struggles. Eight years of LEARNING. We have been to 2 marriage retreats in the past month. We learned a great deal from listening to our leaders’ stories and testimonies.
During our marriage retreat in Bellevue, the first session was given by Ptr Paolo Punzalan and his wife Jenn. They talked to us about PRIORITIES.
I so agree that decision-making becomes simpler when we have our priorities straight. There have been a few times that King had to miss a basketball game or a high school reunion or a party to be with me or with me and the kids. I have missed many events, nights out, weddings, parties, vacations with friends to stay home for my family. There have been a few times I was late for a meeting because I had to discipline my child first. Indeed we need to say NO to the right things.
We need to say NO when it competes with family time. My husband, being a pastor, does a lot of ministry weekly. Especially now that he is in charge of pastoral services, there are seasons when he has a dedication and funeral service outside the office every single day. He needs to guard his Mondays, his only day off, so he can spend that time with us. It’s a blessing that I am a stay-at-home mom, that I can be flexible with my time to accommodate King’s and the girls’ schedules.
Our ideal top 5 priority lists are practically the same. They contain the same “items” — God, spouse, children, self, work/ministry — but of course they get mixed up sometimes, along with other priorities like family and friends, depending on situation, day, or activity. I thank God though that King and I are generally on the same page, and we hold the same values.
Thank you, babe, because I can see that I am a priority in your life. I am able to trust your leadership because you take care of me, our marriage, our children. Our children will also one day see (when they’re past their whining and complaining haha), how much you prioritize them too.
Happy 8th anniversary, Babe! I love you! 🙂