Eight Years of Learning – Love

King and I celebrate our 8th anniversary today! It’s been eight years of highs and lows, successes and failures, joys and sorrows, breakthroughs and struggles. Eight years of LEARNING. We have been to 2 marriage retreats in the past month. We learned a great deal from listening to our leaders’ stories and testimonies.

Pastor Bernhard Wewege of South Africa taught about LOVE on the last session of our Couples’ Getaway in Tagaytay. I love the specific things he taught us to do, to love our spouse. To LOVE is to SERVE. In order to serve our spouse, we must think LESS of SELF. When we do not take time to understand, we will be like an annoyingly loud gong that our spouse will want to run away from. Our spiritual life has much to do with our ability to do this. When we grow spiritually dry, we become more SELF-SERVING, more PRIDEFUL.

Love is patient. Make sure that your spiritual tank is overflowing with God’s Spirit. If not, the enemy can wreak havoc in your life using the “unfilled” part of your tank.
Love is kind. Show kindness to one another.
Love does not envy. Rejoice in each other’s successes.
Love does not boast. Boasting comes from pride. Pride will set you for a fall.
Love is not proud. God breaks the people who are proud. You must not be too proud to do anything.
Love does not dishonor others. Don’t gossip about your spouse. If you love him or her, protect.
Love is not self seeking. Don’t think about what you can get out of it. If you’re self-seeking, when you need help, nobody will be there for you.
Love is not easily angered. Take a deep breath then respond. Words impact. You can’t take it back. Never react; RESPOND. (ding ding ding! This is me, but not so much the words but the TONE….I think haha)
Love keeps no record of wrongs. Dont bring back the past. You can’t change it. Forgive and move on. The race is ahead of you, not behind you.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. Sorry I did not catch what he actually said on this one, but I think it has to do with grieving and praying for each other when one has fallen, and encouraging and cheering for each other when you or either of you are doing well.

Husbands, cherish your wife.

Your hope is your future, your dreams. There is always hope.

All of the love areas must be covered for this trust to happen.

If you embrace the principles of serving, it is easy to persevere.

Love is not a feeling, but a choice.

I thank God for my husband who is a servant at heart. Thank you, babe, for loving me, for being patient with me, for being kind to me, for honoring me, for protecting me, for trusting me, and for never giving up on me. I love you.

Happy 8th anniversary! 🙂

If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1Corinthians 13:1-7

This is post #3 out of 8, for 8 wonderful years! Click here for post #2 and here for post #4! 🙂

Published by Phoebe Torres-Lucero

I am Phoebe Torres-Lucero, wife of a loving husband & my best friend, King, and mother to three wonderful, smart, active princesses who keep me on my toes. Phoebe means bright and radiant. Torres means towers. Lucero means light. Put together, my name speaks of a tower of bright, radiant light. And that is what I hope to be as I write and share my sari-sari stories with you. 😊

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