We teach our kids to respect their elders. It’s quite easy when it’s with our friends, relatives, even strangers. They almost always say hello and treat them with respect. It’s another story when it’s people in our house, namely Mommy and Daddy (haha) and the helpers.
Just this morning, I heard Noelle talk disrespectfully to our Manang. I corrected her, reminded her that she needs to show some respect. When I prompted her, she apologized.
Growing up, helpers, except my nanny, were the enemy. I always fought with them, disrespected them, yelled at them. I was right and they were always wrong. They served me but I rarely appreciated them. I was always quick to point out their mistakes. I was very demanding and I was a complete brat.
I admit I still fall short sometimes, but I must say God has changed me a great deal. It’s one of those “God is truly alive!” situations haha. Though my girls are not nearly as bad as I was, I DO NOT want them to be like me. I want them to be ten times better.
I believe one can be spoiled without being a brat, but anyone can certainly be a BRAT WITHOUT BEING SPOILED (like me). Whether you’re rich or poor, young or old, you can develop this sense of entitlement. This conviction that it’s your way or the high way. This notion that the world owes you and this strong belief that you deserve more. With no regard for others, only love for oneself.
To some extent, that was who I was. I would feel miserable every time I acted like a brat, but for some reason, I could not stop myself. I don’t want that for my girls. I want to help them be happy, humble, grateful children. Training them to develop basic healthy habits like respecting their elders at an early age, we believe, will bear fruit in their lives. Respecting people will, sooner than later, become their lifestyle.
Show proper respect to everyone: Love the brotherhood of believers, fear God, honor the king. 1 Peter 2:17
Young men, in the same way be submissive to those who are older. All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” 1 Peter 5:5