Questions and Motives

King bought himself the latest NBA game for xbox just recently. He was playing last night while I was on my iPad, and the girls were all over the place coloring, drawing, playing and checking out what we were doing. At one point, both girls came near me to see my game and then Noelle, my little 3-year old, suddenly blurted out a very interesting question.

“Why do those girls in yellow have to be sexy?”

She was pertaining to the cheerleaders in King’s game. We do not use the word SEXY because they don’t know and they’re not prepared to know what it REALLY means, but she has heard it said about her by other people. I told her that it was a very good question, and King and I both said we had no idea why. Danae, on the other hand, offered a smart answer.

“The owner wants them to dress that way.” (paraphrase)

To which I replied, “If they want you to wear that to be a cheerleader, would you?” Of course she said “No.” Although it did sound like she was already justifying their outfits haha. She wants to be a fashion designer when she grows up. Hopefully by then or way before that, she will have learned classy, tasteful and appropriate dressing.

Anyway, I believe it goes back to motive. I’m sure Danae is right, that the owners/bosses/whatever want their cheerleaders to dress a certain way to increase interest in their product. They’re advertising. Marketing. Selling. And in this world, sexy women are effective tools. But that’s just it. Women are being USED as WILLING tools. As means. As objects.

Are you being used as a tool too? Or are YOU using your own body as a tool to advertise, market, sell? What exactly are you advertising? As a Christian, WHO are you advertising? What kind of people do you want to attract? Who are the people you want to be interested in and buy your “product”?

It’s more than what you wear, what you say, how you act. It’s WHY. Why do you do it? Is it because you know who you are and what your purpose is? Are you trying to prove something, impress someone? Where does your security lie? Are your decisions dictated by your “boss/bosses”? Who IS your boss?

Why do those girls or any girls HAVE to be SEXy? To be sexually appealing? Exactly. Why do they? They DON’T. We don’t.

To honor God and my husband, I reserve my sexiness for my husband ALONE. 🙂

Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God–this is your spiritual act of worship. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is–his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:1-2

Published by Phoebe Torres-Lucero

I am Phoebe Torres-Lucero, wife of a loving husband & my best friend, King, and mother to three wonderful, smart, active princesses who keep me on my toes. Phoebe means bright and radiant. Torres means towers. Lucero means light. Put together, my name speaks of a tower of bright, radiant light. And that is what I hope to be as I write and share my sari-sari stories with you. 😊

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