Can You Tell Your Kids’ Tells?

Noelle learned to live without diapers before she turned 3, but I have proven having emergency diapers in the car and in the bag to be useful especially when we travel. The thing with Noelle is, she is not consistent with telling us when she needs to pee. There are times she’ll do it herself and just tell me afterwards. Other times, even at home, she asks for my help. And other times, I just notice her move differently. When I ask her if she needs to pee, she tells me that she doesn’t! But of course I insist, and I’m almost always right. When she concedes, sometimes she says “O yeah, I need pala.”

We were at Fun Ranch early this year. The girls were inside the play area, I was outside just watching them. They would disappear into the huge place but reappear every so often to where King and I were seated. My girls are active so you would hear their excitement and see them running around. This one instance though, I saw Danae quiet and just seated at the edge of one slide. I immediately knew something was wrong, even though at first she said it was nothing. I went inside to talk to her, and apparently some boy told her to “shut up.” Nobody ever said that to her before and we teach our girls that it’s rude to say that, so it kinda hurt her feelings. After finding out who the boy was, I just told her to forgive, to stay away from him, and to call me if he causes more problems. Believe me, the urge was there to tell the boy off, but what kind of example would I be to my daughter? Haha. Thank God for wisdom and self-control.

It just goes to show how important it is to read body language. Much like a Poker player who plays with the same opponents over the years, I already know my daughters’ tells. The more I’m with my kids, the more I know them. It helps us parents to communicate better with our children, to understand them better, and to give them the help they need.

Quantity time is indeed quality time in my book. And a mother’s instinct, more like God-given wisdom to me, should never go unheeded.

Published by Phoebe Torres-Lucero

I am Phoebe Torres-Lucero, wife of a loving husband & my best friend, King, and mother to three wonderful, smart, active princesses who keep me on my toes. Phoebe means bright and radiant. Torres means towers. Lucero means light. Put together, my name speaks of a tower of bright, radiant light. And that is what I hope to be as I write and share my sari-sari stories with you. 😊

4 thoughts on “Can You Tell Your Kids’ Tells?

  1. Believe me, the urge was there to tell the boy off, but what kind of example would I be to my daughter? – You’d be Xena the Warrior Princess, hehehehe, sige ako nalang Ate Phoebe babatok

    On a serious note, I think that kid hears that a lot from people who keeps telling him ti shut up.

  2. the thing about kids who hurt other kids…they can change, too. I have hopes for them, too. it’s good you controlled yourself…I know I wouldn’t have, bwahahaha. but my kids aren’t perfect either, and they end up hurting other kids, too, sometimes. the thing is, we can address our kids’ emotional, spiritual, physical and mental needs right away when we understand their body language. great blog, peer.

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