We named Danae after Daniel of the Bible. He’s one of our favorite people, along with Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego. They had great faith and courage, and were ten times better than their counterparts. But before I continue, this blog is in NO WAY AIMED TO MAKE YOU COMPARE YOUR KIDS or other kids to ours. We are not claiming that our kids are ten times better than their friends or other kids. We are, however, claiming that they ARE ten times better….than their parents!

For one thing, Danae is so much more mature than I or King ever were when we were her age (5 and a half). Noelle’s vocabulary is more extensive than mine or King’s when we were her age (2 years & 5 months). They are both articulate, smart and very confident.

I know I performed in school quite often (a pre-school play, field demonstrations and the like), but I was never comfortable in front of many people. I wasn’t comfortable with even a few. In grade school, they would get me to join declamation contests, and maybe because I was pushed, I’d agree. But I never won anything because I really am not much of a performer. Sure, I can speak. But that’s it. Now that I’m older, I am way more confident than I was, but Danae was BORN confident and fearless. Unafraid of almost anything. Adventurous too! I thought at first that Noelle was timid, but she’s pretty fearless too. I saw that when she almost jumped from the boat to join King in the water (Coron) and when she danced with us on stage in front of hundreds of people (Victory Alabang Leaders’ Night). I guess it just took a while for her confidence and fearlessness to come out.

I’m amazed at how expressive Danae is. I thank God that she trusts me and can freely share things with me, without any fears of being judged or being reprimanded (though there are times that I do reprimand of course). I guess that attributes to her confidence and fearlessness too. It doesn’t take much to draw things out of her and she can articulate her feelings well. That’s God’s grace right there. I’m so grateful that she and Noelle need not be caged because of insecurities and fear of rejection, like I was when I was young.

I’m amazed at how my girls take on food. Well, Noelle eats almost anything so it’s no surprise that she eats almost any vegetable. But I was surprised at how receptive she was to the idea when I introduced malunggay capsules in their diet. She doesn’t care if her food turns green. She’s the one who reminds me and is excited to put the green powder on her food! Eeew right? haha. Danae is a bit like me, somewhat picky when it comes to food, though she eats most vegetables and is eating those that I only started eating a few years ago. I still don’t eat onions to this day and Danae, if she sees them, doesn’t eat them either. She does eat them unknowingly when I feed her (hehe). I wasn’t planning to give her malunggay capsules since she drinks milk (Noelle doesn’t but needs calcium), but she was also interested. I knew putting it on her food wouldn’t work but I was surprised that she wanted to try swallowing the capsule. I thought she’d have a hard time, it being her first time. She didn’t! No struggle at all. While 33 year old me, still struggles with tablets sometimes!

I’m tempted to say that I know these things are so shallow, but they’re really not. They mean a great deal to me. I am grateful that as early as now, their communication skills and eating habits are already good. As early as now, they are already confident and fearless. As early as now, they are getting to know and learning to love the Lord. My girls are a handful and are very strong-willed. I see so much of me in them, which makes me fearful of who they will become. But seeing that as early as now, they are already ten times better than me, gives me the hope that they need not make as many mistakes as I did and that THEY WILL DISCOVER THEIR GOD-GIVEN PURPOSE & DESTINY EARLY, and FLING THEIR LIVES TO IT.

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About Phoebe Torres-Lucero

I am Phoebe Torres-Lucero, wife of a loving husband & dedicated pastor, King, and mother to three wonderful, smart, active little girls, Danae, Noelle and Gianna. Phoebe means bright and radiant. Torres means towers. Lucero means light. Put together, my name speaks of a tower of bright, radiant light. And that is what I hope to be as I write and share with you some of my experiences, especially on being a mom.

8 responses »

  1. ria rogel says:

    totally agree—communication skills and eating habits! hahaha! fearless and confident! πŸ™‚ love your kiddos phoebz! πŸ™‚

  2. Miel Maguigad says:

    This is a testament of how you are as a parent, Phoebe. Sige na nga, si King na din. hehehe…

    As a parent our goal is for our kids to be better than us, achieve more than we have achieved, etc. Your being hands on shows in their confidence level, in their achievements. They are able to do that because they are secure of your love for them. They know that at the end of the day, they have Dad and Mom’s loving arms around them.

  3. Good work! Kids who feel a strong attachment to their parents are braver and more self-assured than those who aren’t. πŸ™‚

  4. phoebelucero says:

    thanks ladies! by grace and prayer! πŸ™‚

  5. thine says:

    i soo love your kids!!! I witnessd how brave noelle is.. By eating that green rice- with malunggay.. Grabe, even i, i cant eat it.. Hehe! And very strong-willed- how she managed to wash that sandok ng paulit ulit.. Cute!!! Gagawa at gagawa tlga ng way.. Hehehe!

    And yes, saksi din ako, on how danae communicates with u — how she asks relevant questions and listens.. Kakatuwa!!!

    Danae and Noelle are very smart!!! Sarap kausap.. πŸ™‚ im really encouraged on how u raise your children.. Learning a lot from you and p.k!

    I really enjoy spending time with your family!!! Love u phoebs!

    Btw, cant wait for more blogs!!! Hehehe!

    • phoebelucero says:

      we enjoyed spending time with you too! i’m sure you will raise your children well. it has a lot to do with team work. so you should choose your husband wisely. πŸ™‚

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