Being married and raising kids is a tough, tough job. But the way I see it, we spouses and parents, have two choices when we see our family members having trouble with something or doing something we don’t agree with or when we see that they’re about to make a big mistake. Do we engage or do we ignore? Do we talk about it or do we avoid confrontation?

Even though it’s exhausting, exasperating, dumbfounding and confusing, I’d rather engage my husband and children in conversation than not show them that I care about what they’re going through. Even though it takes more time and energy, my husband and I would rather teach our kids ourselves than let them learn everything on their own. We’d rather they hear it from us and learn from our wisdom and experiences as much as possible, than let them learn the hard way. Even though I am at risk of feeling burdened and heavy, I’d rather carry my husband and children’s burdens with them than risk making them feel alone and abandoned. Even though most of the time it means we will end up in an argument, I’d rather talk to them than pretend that an issue does not exist. Even though it takes harder work, I’d rather be involved in every aspect of my husband and every aspect of my children’s lives than be oblivious & passive. Even though I am prone to make mistakes, I’d rather do something with my God-given responsibility and gift than do nothing at all.


Published by Phoebe Torres-Lucero

I am Phoebe Torres-Lucero, wife of a loving husband & my best friend, King, and mother to three wonderful, smart, active princesses who keep me on my toes. Phoebe means bright and radiant. Torres means towers. Lucero means light. Put together, my name speaks of a tower of bright, radiant light. And that is what I hope to be as I write and share my sari-sari stories with you. 😊

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