One time last week, Danae recalled an episode of Jojo’s Circus, where Mr. Muscles, a single parent to Maya, got married to Ms. Kersplatski (or something like that). She asked me this very interesting question: “Why do they have a baby? They’re supposed to get married first.” Obviously, I explained to her that Mr. Muscles had a baby with his wife before, who may have died already, and then married Ms. Kersplatski years later. But I did tell her that she was right to say that. She doesn’t know the details of how a baby is made, but it’s interesting that at age 4, she already grasps this concept of MARRIAGE FIRST BEFORE BABIES.

In the car the other day, Danae was whining and complaining about something that we said NO to.
Me:       It cannot always be a YES, Nae.
Danae: I want always YES.
Me:       Okay, so if you ask me if you could go out in the street by yourself, you want me to say yes? So you can get run over by a car?
Danae: No.
Me:       If you ask me if you can jump off a building, you want me to say yes?
Danae: No.
Me:       NO is a very important word. It can’t always be a YES.
Don’t we all need to learn to accept this word? WHEN GOD SAYS NO TO US, IT’S FOR OUR BEST.

We’ve been trying to teach Noelle to clean up, as she is not as compliant as Danae was at her age. It takes effort and some convincing, and there’s sometimes crying involved, before she helps in cleaning up the toys/flashcards/crayons she uses. Danae is almost always eager to help and sometimes volunteers to do it for Noelle. She’ll pick something up even when I specifically tell Noelle to do so. I constantly remind Danae that Noelle will not learn if she keeps doing it for her sister. IT’S GOOD AND NOBLE TO HELP OTHERS, BUT NOT IF IT’S ALREADY GETTING IN THE WAY OF THEIR PROGRESS AND GROWTH.

Published by Phoebe Torres-Lucero

I am Phoebe Torres-Lucero, wife of a loving husband & my best friend, King, and mother to three wonderful, smart, active princesses who keep me on my toes. Phoebe means bright and radiant. Torres means towers. Lucero means light. Put together, my name speaks of a tower of bright, radiant light. And that is what I hope to be as I write and share my sari-sari stories with you. 😊


  1. Good Insights Ms.Phoebe:) ang dami..wuhoo.. mahusay po kau.. WHEN GOD SAYS NO TO US, IT’S FOR OUR BEST.(super blessed with this statement) I Love your blogs!!! more!:))

  2. Cute! Sometimes we forgot the basic rule of saying “No” just to please others. “I want always yes” -That’s sooo cute!

  3. great one, phoebs!

    i was just wondering about God saying NO to us! coz He said in His word that all His promises in Christ are YES and AMEN!

    i know what you mean! 🙂

    for me, i won’t ask God for anything outside His will! of course, that’s a BIG NO! He can say YES, but that would be dangerous for us if He will ALLOW it! God knows what’s best for us and we need to KNOW when He says, “NO”!

    more, more, more…

  4. yeah, many times we pray not according to His will. when it is not for our best (like a relationship or opportunity or trip or job or whatever), I believe God says No and makes it known to us one way or another. whether we listen and obey or we do not, is another story. I also believe God can say Yes, to give us in to our evil desires, and let us learn the hard way. God knows what’s best for us, so we need to constantly seek His will so we can listen and obey whatever it is He wants us to do. because whatever it is, whether we agree with it or not at the time He is telling it to us, His will is for our best. 🙂

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