What I Learned From Captain Marvel

So I posted something on Facebook but it turned out to be a spoiler 😂 I took it down and decided to write it (and more) here instead. Consider this your warning!

I didn’t know about the bad rap Captain Marvel or Brie Larson was getting so it did not influence me at all as I watched the movie. I know nothing about the comic book stories, and no one spoiled the movie for me 😬. I enjoyed it! The story, the characters, the action, the heart, and the MUSIC! I don’t normally watch movies more than once in the theater, but I would totally see this one again because of the music. High five to all who love 90s music (save for most boy bands 😬) like I do!

Awwww and the opening…the tribute… THANK YOU STAN! I’m so glad to learn that he was able to finish his scene for this one. I thought they just CGIed him into it. Even our girls, also pseudo daughters who watched with us, were almost teary remembering Stan Lee. It’s bittersweet to see his cameos in the Marvel movies.

So what did I learn from Captain Marvel? Quite a few actually.

THE POWER OF MANIPULATION.

Self-serving motive under the guise of friendship and mentorship.

Yon-Rogg (Jude Law’s character apparently 😂 thank you Google 😂) was fully aware of his goals, his intentions, and his actions. To Vers aka Carol Danvers/Capt Marvel, he was a trusted friend and mentor. Because of the trust and friendship that was built, she not only believed in their cause, she fought alongside them. She was aware of (some of) her power, her gift, but she was not aware that she was being used as a pawn in an unjust war.

Imagine the power Yon-Rogg held over Vers. He had her in the palm of his hands, and she had no clue. He appeared so good and trust worthy. He seemed to genuinely care about her. I mean didn’t you love him at first? I did. And Vers was all in, believing she was one of the good guys. For 6 years. Amazing how deception could last that long. How sad that the person she looked up to was not who she thought he was. Proximity and love can create blind spots.

But I believe that truth is more powerful than lies.

THE POWER OF TRUTH.

The truth always has a way of coming out. In this case, the key was Carol giving Talos the benefit of the doubt and giving ear to his story. She gave him a chance, and she listened!

The truth freed her from the lies that she once completely believed. The truth gave her the freedom to choose for herself — not dictated to her or because she was manipulated — to make her own decision about whose cause she would fight for. To choose to use her powers for what was right and for what was truly good.

The truth freed her from the power of Yon Rogg. Oh how I loved when she blasted him and told him that she had nothing to prove to him! Yessss! It’s like when we overcome our past, our old patterns, our sin. The lies of the enemy are given no more power in our lives because of the Truth!!! The truth of who Jesus is and what He did for us to be forgiven and to be new. We break free and we break through!

And she discovered that she had been fighting with one hand tied behind her back, because they constantly told her to control her powers and told her that her powers could be taken away from her. I would generally agree with that because it takes great character to use great power responsibly, IF they were training her to use her powers wisely. But their intention was to keep her at bay, keep her controlled, so they could continually manipulate her to do what they wanted her to do. What greater powers were unleashed when she refused to be controlled by that chip and by the Supreme Intelligence’s words!

What greater power we have when we refuse to believe the lies of the enemy. What greater power we have, to do all things, because of Christ in us!

THE POWER OF IDENTITY.

But even when Carol already knew about the lies fed to her, she was still lost. She still did not understand what she was supposed to do, until her best friend Maria reminded her of who she is. It was then that she regained her confidence and made the decision to continue Lawson/Mar-vell’s fight to end the war.

All the great stories have this element. Losing one’s identity, consumed by whatever in the world consumes them (hate, love, greed, career, relationship, fame, drugs, ambition, and so many more), and then remembering, going back to who they are, regaining their identity. This one’s no different.

We are no different. Once lost, now found. Once blind, but now able to see. Loved, valued, saved, forgiven, redeemed, accepted, secure. Identity anchored in Jesus alone.

How powerful it is to know exactly who you are in Christ and be 💯 committed to Him and His purpose for your life!

Sometimes what we know and believe are actually not the truth. Sometimes who we think and believe we are, or who others think or say we are, is not true. Sometimes, we get lost. May we be open, and learn to be sensitive, to the leading of the Holy Spirit, who guides us into all truth. May we find our way back to Jesus.

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Funny Eyebrow-raising Friday

Gianna came in to the bathroom…

G: (sounding worried) Mom, where are you going?

Me: Nowhere….why?

G: Because you put on kilay.

😂 kilay is life 😂

Funny February Friday

Gianna is four but sometimes she talks like she’s not. I don’t know why I even wonder when her older sisters were the same when they were her age. Just this morning, we had a conversation that went like this…

Me: Stay here. I’ll be back.

G: No. I’m scared.

Me: Scared? Why are you scared in your own house?

G: Because monsters and all those other stuff. (side note: I’m so proud of her — she has never said “stuffs” ever, not even by mistake! 😂)

She’s been having bad dreams, and I was surprised, not by her answer, but by how she articulated it. Sometimes she bobs her head and raises her eyebrows — too much sass! 😂

But there are other times when she is just completely adorably, wonderfully four.

On King’s birthday, Noelle mentioned that we were going to the arcade.

G: What cade?

N: Arcade, not our cade.

G: What caaaaade???

😂

When King talked about his oldest friend who was coming over…

K: Tito Ryan has been my friend for a long time. We were together in Kinder….

G: Egg.

Kinder egg, what have you done to my child??? 😂

I recently taught Gianna the song that I sang to her sisters when they were babies. She now sings it as well.

G: You’re my itty bitty baby girl…Daddy’s pride, Mama’s pearl. Tiny treasure, so PATIS…

😂

She mispronounces words and I enjoy hearing them!

“Are we going to the ates’ RECYCLE?”

“That’s BUNNY’S Bakedown.”

“I want to have my own STEPOCOPE.”

Recently she learned to say THree with a considerable amount of saliva at first. But it’s still funder, fumbs up, and Feeyodore. 😂

The other day, she said she was drawing a Sir and a Maam.

Me: Is mommy the maam? Do I look like her?

G: No.

Me: We’re different?

G: Yeah.

Me: Why? Why are we different?

G: Because you’re a human.

Me: Oh I’m a human. And she’s a?

G: A drawing.

😂 Nga naman. 😂

Low Expectation, High Appreciation

One of the best lessons we have learned, and also teach to other couples, is the concept of Low Expectation and High Appreciation. Coming from a place of hope instead of demand or expectation.

A few months ago, I noticed this in action. Not that it’s never at work in our marriage haha. I just distinctly noticed it that day. King didn’t bring a car to work, so we agreed that I would pick him up in the evening. But he messaged me during the day and asked me to pick him up in the mall near us, since he was able to get a ride from a co-worker. I happily agreed.

When I picked him up, he thanked me for the effort. He knew he could have just walked home.

I was actually happy that I didn’t have to drive all the way to the office, grateful I could pick him up nearby.

Neither of us had high expectation or high demand. Though we agreed on me picking him up, he hoped I would be agreeable to picking him up in the mall that’s not even five minutes away from our house. He hoped, but he was also willing to walk if needed. Though we agreed on me picking him up, I hoped that I would not have to because he could hitch a ride. I hoped 😂 but I was also willing to do what was agreed upon.

We both ended up appreciative of each other because our hopes were realized. Imagine if we both came from a place of demand or expectation. If he had demanded that I pick him up, he would not have appreciated the fact that I did because “it was agreed upon.” Words like “buti nga malapit lang ako nagpasundo!” might have come out. If I had demanded that he hitch a ride, I would not have appreciated that he cut my drive short by 20-40 minutes. Words like “ang lapit na lang eh, di pa naglakad.” might have come out.

The beauty of that is, even if we stuck with our agreement, we would still have been grateful because we did not turn our hopes into expectation or demand. He would still have been grateful that he got picked up. I would have still been grateful that I was able to pick him up.

Low expectation. High appreciation. We don’t get this right all the time, but it is good practice, I would say not just for couple relationships, but especially for married couples. And when it isn’t successfully practiced, bigger words come into play — mercy, grace, dying to self, forgiveness, love, faith, trust, inside out transformation. All by the grace of God. ❤️

Tidying Up

I’ve heard of the Konmari method and since Marie Kondo’s show came out on Netflix recently, I’ve been reading posts about how people have been sorting their stuff and keeping only those that spark joy in them. And since I’ve finished binge watching Grey’s, I decided to watch Tidying Up while organizing the girls’ homeschooling materials.

First off, Marie Kondo is so cute! She’s gentle and meek, and so put-together. Calm and joyful too. I feel like if she came to my house, she’d influence us all to be chill and unhurried. That would be awesome. 😁

I love her way of folding. I am definitely teaching the kids and our manang to do it for our clothes. I actually sorted through our kitchen towels, kept only those that spark joy (out with the old 😂), and folded them and placed them in a plastic basket inside a drawer closer to the kitchen sink. I didn’t follow her steps though. I went straight to the kitchen. Clothing should always be first. Sorry Marie!

I also like her idea of putting things in boxes and drawers to keep them tidy. The girls’ cabinets are open because I thought open shelving would have a nice effect but Danae has been complaining about how her room always looks messy. I am excited to buy boxes that they can pull from their shelves. I know there are some in MiniSo and Daiso. Excited to see clothes neatly folded as well.

My favorite thing that Marie said, from the very first episode, was something about a person’s sensitivity to joy. That really struck me, not about tidying up, but about life. Life gets difficult at times. Our situations can change abruptly. Our disposition is almost always affected by change. But JOY IS POSSIBLE in the midst of it all. BY THE GRACE OF GOD, JOY IS POSSIBLE. And it can start small, but our sensitivity to joy can grow.

Tidying up is a daunting task, but one’s sensitivity to joy grows through the process, most especially when clutter slowly disappears, things get clearer and cleaner, and when the task is finally done. Though I don’t really care for talking to my clothes and thanking them (although I do tell my kids to say goodbye to their things that they agree to give away), but having a sense of gratitude for having used them is a good thing. It reminds us of how blessed we are, how God has been faithful in providing for our needs. I believe counting our blessings, finding something to be grateful for (like indoor plumbing, yes) makes our sensitivity to joy grow. Seeing progress and change in the seemingly impossible — hope increases joy! Knowing that you are not alone, you are part of a team, a family; that there are people who love and support you — security increases joy! Accomplishing something — fulfillment increases joy too!

May the Lord increase our sensitivity to joy. May our eyes be opened to see, and our hearts be inclined to appreciate, His goodness, in the big and the little things in our lives. ❤️

May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. Romans 15:13

Great Faith

It’s prayer and fasting again! Nothing like starting the year right as a family. Using the kids’ manual, we talked about the great faith of Abraham and then Sarah last night.

When asked what could be keeping them from hearing God’s voice, perhaps distracting them during their quiet time, Danae and Noelle gave such honest answers. Funny that Noelle included Gianna in her list. Her little sister really is a distraction because they like to play with each other. 😂When asked what one step she can take to help her hear God better, she said that she would lock herself in the room when it’s time to read her Bible and pray. Great action plan.

Danae’s answer was funny too, but profound. She said that her own thoughts distracted her from hearing God. I found it funny because she does get sidetracked easily with things that pop in her head. Then for her one step, she said that she would focus more and WONDER about God’s word more. I thought at first that was a pretty vague answer, not much of an action plan. But when we started praying, I realized she was on point.

To wonder more means to be more curious, to be more interested. To want to know God more.

Wow. I say amen to that. I pray that wonder, that desire grows as they/we continue to read the Bible. We have also been talking about writing God’s word in the tablet of our heart, so I pray that that growing wonder will translate to unwavering faith, straight paths, and great love for the Lord. ❤️

Without weakening in his faith, he faced the fact that his body was as good as dead—since he was about a hundred years old—and that Sarah’s womb was also dead. Yet he did not waver through unbelief regarding the promise of God, but was strengthened in his faith and gave glory to God, being fully persuaded that God had power to do what he had promised. Romans 4:19-21

2018 Hongkong Highlights

Christmas is always a busy but really fruitful and meaningful season for us. We enjoy doing Advent activities daily, getting ready for Jesus’ birthday. One of them is writing down what we are thankful for for the year. This time, we did it by month. I wrote down in my March box our trip to Hongkong.

Yes, I love traveling with my family. Yes, I love going to Disneyland. But what I loved most about our trip was that I had one on one time with each member of my family. Precious memories. ❤️

King and I went out alone for a walk, to see what were in the shops and where we could take the kids. Thankfully our hotel was in a pretty good location, and my mom was with the girls. It’s refreshing to just chill and spend alone time with the hubby, even if it’s just for an hour. The weather was nice and cool too. 🐽

Noelle was sick on day 1 but I think it was day 2 or 3 that we had a chance to take a walk and shop for some things for herself as well. It was a blessing in disguise that Danae was too sleepy to come along that Noelle and I had some time together. 🐼

Noelle loves pandas. Notice her shirt. 🐼

Danae and I also had some time checking out stores, while King went into a separate store. She got to buy ice cream from an ice cream truck.🍦

And then on one evening, she came with King and I to Temple street for the night market. She and I walked back to the hotel alone while King waited for some yummy take out food — Yang Chow, Spicy Pork, Lemon Chicken, Steamed fish and broccoli! 🥘

Our best meal in the city, considering all other meals from McDo, KFC and Burger King. 😂 I do miss their McDonald’s Spicy Wings, which we don’t have here.

And then Disneyland. I love Disney. I love Mickey. I love Disneyland! It makes me all giddy inside. BUT… I doubt I’d enjoy it at all if my family was not with me. And it was Gianna’s first time — a dream come true for her! She was so excited to go to Disneyland that once when we were going to a mall, she asked if we were going to see Buzz there. She kept telling me she wanted to go to Disneyland, until my mom said she’d take her there. What a blessing my mom is! 😇

Gianna and I enjoyed riding Slinky together! Danae and Noelle rode together. I wasn’t sure how Gianna would react, since her ate Noelle cried when it was her first time, but she didn’t! I was so proud of her. And of Noelle too because she didn’t get scared this time. 👏🏼

King and Danae went on the Star Wars Space Mountain ride, so I took Noelle and Gianna to meet one of the Star Wars characters. It was R2D2! I loved how Noelle was beyond excited to have her picture taken with him. 🤖

Noelle was a fan of Star Wars for a while. Disneyland was a great place to get some merch. I dunno if her shirt can be seen but it is a Star Wars shirt. She’s also wearing a Star Wars cap, bought here.

Danae and I rode the new roller coaster in Grizzly Gulch. It was soooo much fun! I thought it was mild enough for Noelle to ride at first, but boy was I wrong. I was laughing the whole time, while Danae was screaming 😂

Thank you Lord for our Hongkong trip, but most of all thank You for my family. None of us is perfect, and our relationships are rocky at times, but You have blessed me indeed. Every year, I will be grateful for them. ❤️

Give thanks to the Lord, for He is good; His love endures forever. 1 Chronicles 16:34

Last Funny Friday for 2018

Some words, for some reason, Gianna can’t pronounce properly…

Jimastix. Her sisters have been in gymnastics for over a year and it’s still the same.

Axe. Just last night she was telling her dad to “axe” the guard where a certain restaurant is.

Minja. She said it so convincingly that I “axed” Noelle if it really is Minja Kids.

Pungcake House. She likes mashed potato in this restaurant.

Burger King. She recognizes many signs and logos. She wouldn’t budge though when I said it’s Chowking. Guess she can read the word king.

King of Okra. They play this game on the ipad, where they are opera singers who try to steal the spotlight.

About Anne Curtis

I asked Gianna if she recognized Anne Curtis, assuming she would still tell me it’s “ilamlam ulam,” but instead she said it’s Shasha P. I asked her over and over again who Shasha P was, until she sang the jingle to me. 😂

Singing in SM

We were in the department store one time, and she was singing Mr. Sun. Then she asked me if the Sun was a boy or a girl. I told her that if it’s Mr., then it’s a boy. She told me she wanted it to be a girl, and she sang Oh Mrs Sun Sun, Mrs Golden Sun. I thought that was pretty smart of her. 🙂

Then she told me she needed to pee. I asked her if it’s ok that we do it at home. She said “no, weewee in SM.” Then she sang “Weewee in SM, we got it all for you.” 😂

Despicable

Gianna has been dancing to Joy Unspeakable lately, and everytime we have guests or we’re at a party, she wants to dance. One time, she overheard a conversation on tv, where someone said “it’s despicable.” She said to me, “Mom, the guy said joy unspeakable!”

How old are you?

We were at a party in my tita’s house and Gianna wanted to play with the other kids, particularly her cousin (or granddaughter really) Gabby. I told her to go ahead, but she said, “Wait, I’m nervous,” while nervously smiling. 🤷🏽‍♀️😂

A conversation in the car

Danae: Huh? What?

Noelle: (sarcastically) Do you have ears?

Gianna: (seriously) Yes she has ears, see o.

Danae and her bookmark

Me: I like this bookmark (she made herself), and this and this. I like this too except for the name. Zach ng Zach. Zach-zachin kita e.

Danae: (laughing)

Me: Do you even know what Zach-zach (saksak) means?

Danae: Yeah. Plug.

😂

Funny Fridays Is Back (for today!)

>Noelle has always been funny with words.

Someone in the family, I forget who, was singing Quest’s song entitled Saludo….

Noelle: Saludo? It’s Saluto! (with conviction)

Me: It’s Saludo, love.

Noelle: Oh, I thought it was salute-Oh.

😀

 

>Gianna hears a catchy ad once, and she learns it right away.

Shopee to the tune of Baby Shark. Jollibee’s Linamnam ulam. And more that I can’t remember at the moment.

Months ago, she surprised me when she sang “ilamlam ulam,” and the girls explained to me that it was a Jollibee ad. Once at a super market, she saw a product with Anne Curtis’ face on the box. She excitedly pointed to it and told me, “Mom, it’s ilamlam ulam!” 😀

>One time, she suddenly mentioned that she wants to go to Florida. When I asked why, she said because of the little couple. She has seen the show’s ad on TLC, and she remembered that the family was moving to Florida. 😀

>Another time, she came to me with a piece of tape on her arm.

Gianna: Mom, Dr. Pimple changed my life!

If you know the ad of the show Dr. Pimple Popper, the doctor says that she doesn’t just pop pimples, she changes lives. 😀

>We were walking in a mall, and Gianna pointed at a picture, and said “Nico.” Apparently she knows Solenn’s husband from an ad she has seen. 😀

I guess dance moves aren’t the only things she picks up quickly. 🙂

Funny Fridays – Enchanted Kingdom

Some time last year, we went to Enchanted Kingdom with the volunteers of our church.

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Upon approaching EK….

Danae and Noelle: …..screaming in excitement….. oh we’re here! i see the wizard!

Gianna: ……quiet until…….hotdogs! I see hotdogs!

She also seemed more excited to see (and eat) corn than to see (and ride) rides.

This girl and food 🙂

 

We watched one of the staff try his hand on the strongman game. You know, the game where you make the bell ring by hitting the thing hard enough with a huge hammer. We left before he succeeded, so Gianna, with her sad face, said “Aw I want to win.” Maybe she was hoping the prize would be given to her. 🙂

 

We left EK and proceeded to join some friends at a restaurant. We parked and started getting ready to go down.

Gianna: ….looked at me as I was trying to fix my hair…..Your hair’s a mess. You look like a Yaya (Nanny).

I laughed so hard. I don’t know where she got the idea that a nanny typically has messy hair. She didn’t seem like she was trying to insult me, but just stating her opinion. Or maybe she was urging me to fix my hair. 🙂

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